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You’re The Man!

by Samira Asemanfar

July 11, 2012 | 12:14 am

As someone who started a business from scratch, I often am compared to a man with statements like, “wow, that’s ball-sy of you,” and “you’re the man.” My immediate reaction: “I don’t get it. I’m so girly. What does it mean about me if people think I am ‘ball-sy.’ Do I have male characteristics? Am I manly?” I generally feel uncomfortable with these sort of remarks. But when I think about it a little deeper, I realize: maybe what society views to be a “man” is really just “hu-man.”

Humans, unlike animals, are first and foremost conscious with their feelings and intellect. Humans defend their beliefs, research and push for growth and development, invent, individuate from their past and move forward, yet also have an incredible ability to remember the past whilst moving forward.

I am human. I have visions and I try to follow them. I am conscious and have the ability to take action to honor my feelings. I do my best to not let society’s conditioning get in the way of my actions. Society often infuses fear, limitations and a judgment against those that break away from the status quo. Sometimes I lose the battle with societal beliefs and expectations. But when I win, I only become more human. That’s the beautiful part. I think on a deeper level when someone says, “you’re the man,” what they really mean is “you’re so hu-man.”

During these Three Weeks (Bein ha-Metzarim) as we mourn the loss of many tragic historical events, we also mourn the loss of an aspect of our relationship with God and community, which some believe causes room for tragedy to take place.

Take a moment to check in and see if you are also out of touch with your humanness: your ability to follow your beliefs, visions and aspirations in life with a fervor. As you rebuild your relationship with your people, your community and God, also remember to rebuild your relationship with your inner Hu-Man.

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outstanding work. see you,

Comment by Tim Perri on 9/02/12 at 8:43 am

My sweet Samira, this (your example) is discrimination! Even if men do not admit discrimination still exists among women. Women are something good, but not good enough to compare with the men.

Comment by <a href="http://www.montecito-estate.com/">M on 11/29/12 at 10:14 am

:) discrimination….. no comment!

Comment by <a href="http://www.montecito-estate.com/">M on 11/29/12 at 10:57 am




After graduating from the Marshall School of Business at USC in 2004, Samira Asemanfar of Los Angeles California joined KPMG, LLP as an internal auditor and SOX compliance...

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