December 21, 2010
The Dump Redux
Since my last blog post, I’ve received all sorts of responses about how and when and whom to dump. A male friend of mine challenged my opinion, saying that after one or two or dates, it wouldn’t be appropriate to have a formal “it’s over talk” and I had to concede this is true.
Personally, even if it’s just one or two dates, I will always recommend a lame excuse like things are complicated with my ex right now or I just need to focus on work and I can’t get together for the foreseeable future so that there’s clear closure, but I concede this isn’t mandatory.
But I’ve also had a number of girlfriends confirm to me that time and time again, they’ve found themselves in the position of dating much further than two dates and being dumped by absentee ballot. So I thought perhaps, instead of just complaining, I could offer up some suggestions about when and how to call it quits. This is by no means an exhaustive or strict list but I offer it as a start.
This is when you’re off the hook A.K.A. not returning even a text message is allowable
If you’ve been on two or less dates with no physical contact or
If you’re set up by a common friend/boss/person you both will see or
If she’s met any of your family or
This is when you have to do it face-to-face
If either party has ever called the other girlfriend/boyfriend in front of the other or