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April 4, 2011 | 1:30 pm

You Should Be Skinny

Posted by Tamara Shayne Kagel

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This is not my advice on how you should get skinny.  I’m simply telling you, you should be skinny.  Everyone has to figure out what sort of diet and exercise plan and tricks and tips works for them.  Since I retired from dancing professionally, my weight has been pretty steady – five pounds heavier than it used to be which I’m not happy about but still pretty thin.  But, every year around my law school finals, I gain another 5 pounds because I stop exercising as much as I normally do which makes me fatter which makes me more depressed about studying the federal rules of evidence all day which makes me eat more to feel better and so on.  But once those hellish few weeks are over twice a year, I fall back into my routine and lose those extra pounds pretty quickly.  Right about now, is when I usually feel skinniest and if you think it doesn’t make a difference in your dating life, you’re just kidding yourself.  I’m 5’8” and as of this morning was 120 pounds; I’d feel better if I knew I was going to be 115 in two weeks when I’ll be at Coachella but I also feel good enough to look in the mirror naked and feel hot, and as long as this is true, I feel pretty good about my body. 

Look, it all sucks.  I hate watching what I eat all day and skipping dessert and ordering salads instead of pasta.  I hate that the media photographs the skinniest models and we perpetuate this almost unattainable ideal and that girls get eating disorders with terrible consequences.  If I could waive a magic wand and add ten pounds to every image of every hot woman in America, I would do it.  But until then, men and women will continue to associate that archetypal thin body on the pages of every magazine with the definition of beauty.  And let’s face it, women want to feel beautiful.  So glorifying the thin female form is part of being human in Western society.  I recognize that part of my own body image opinions are informed (or misinformed) by the fact that at one point in my life I signed a contract with a dance company where I agreed not to change my body type, which meant I had a job that depended on me not gaining weight.  And let’s face it, if you’re looking for a body image disorder, there’s no faster way to get there than to be a model or a dancer.  And as an ex-dancer, it’s hard for me not to compare myself now to the body I had when I was dancing six days a week.  But you don’t have to have the body of a supermodel or a dancer to be hot.  But you do have to be thin for what your body type is.

If you’re sitting around convinced that you’re a great catch and you just have to find a man who will love you for who you are and you shouldn’t have to feel bad about wearing the same size as the average American woman, you may be a better person than me, but you’re going to either be waiting a really long time or you’re going to have to start dating men that date fat women.  You can rail against and disparage this feminine ideal and eat whatever you want and most of you will find men to love you and make it all ok and you’ll accept your body for what it is.  And I’m genuinely happy for you that you will have a happy life. 

But in a certain pool, a certain class of men, the kind of man that says when I settle down, I want to be with a 10, well that kind of guy wants someone who fits in to his understanding of beauty.  And you know what?  I don’t begrudge him that, because I’m the same way.  Settling down has the word settle in it for a reason.  And when I settle down, I don’t want to settle for anything less than a guy who’s a 10.  Now this doesn’t mean he’s perfect because of course no one is.  But he needs to be a total package and the truth remains, if the guy were perfect for me in every way but he was fat, that’s not good enough for me.  So a top quality guy wants to date a thin girl.  You can’t change that.  You can find someone else to love you.  But if you want to date a truly top-tier guy, be realistic.  If you’re holding out for a guy with an incredible job, who makes good money, who’s smart and funny and accomplished and well-dressed with good taste who likes to ski and travel and knows how to order good wine and is well read and hot and well-spoken and went to a good school and will give you the life you always dreamed you wanted – guess what?!?!  He’s holding out for a girl just as amazing.  If you’re not that girl, recognize that you’re competing against girls who are.

Ok you hate me for this post.  Look I’ve been there, struggling with my weight too.  I thought about posting a picture of myself from my freshman year at college to prove to you all how much I’ve been there, but couldn’t bring myself to do it.  Obviously, I’m not saying you can only have a happy life if you’re thin.  You can add 20 pounds or 100 pounds for that matter and go on to have a great life, a successful life even, with a great career and a wonderful family.  But you’re going to have to marry someone who is ok with your extra poundage and I’m telling you, out of the ever-shrinking tiny pool of guys who are 10s, it is a tiny miniscule number of those who don’t care about how hot his girlfriend’s body is.  Most of those guys care and have the luxury to care because let’s face it, there are enough girls out there who are accomplished and successful and younger than you and thin, that he can easily afford to be picky.  And you’re competing against all of them.  If you’re complaining about how there are no guys out there but you refuse to date anyone less than a 10 and you don’t look like the best version of yourself, you have to stop eating as much.  End of story.  Throw out your junk food.  End drunk munchies.  Get thin.

If you don’t want one of these “10s” of which I speak because they’re mostly superficial j@ck@$$’s anyway, good for you!  Don’t listen to me.  You’re probably already eons beyond me in your level of wisdom and enlightenment and you probably date really nice genuine guys all the time.  Enjoy your life and leave me to my screwed-up self-absorbed shallow world.  The fact is most girls are hypocrites when it comes to this.  We come up with the most superficial arbitrary reason not to date someone, like he’s balding or he wears tacky polyester shirts without irony or he has a goatee, but then we tell ourselves he should like us despite the fact that we don’t want to look at ourselves in a bikini.  You’re not less superficial, you’re just a hypocrite!  Date a step below or make yourself the kind of girl the step above wants to date.

Just to be clear, I’m not suggesting you make yourself into a walking bag of bones either.  Being healthy is part of being beautiful and being toned and fit is really what I’m talking about.  I don’t suggest girls starve themselves until they lose their curves; most men don’t want to date a girl with the body of an eleven year-old boy, anyway.  When I get overly annoying about what I’ll eat my mom usually says Tamara! Men don’t want to date girls who don’t eat! And she’s right – there is such a thing as too skinny.  A few bites of dessert won’t make or break your love life.  In fact, when I’m 125 pounds, I don’t honestly believe that men who thought I was attractive before suddenly don’t think I’m hot.  But I feel different in my own skin.  I dress differently.  I probably act more confidently and am more willing to take social chances and risks.  I feel more comfortable talking to strangers.  And all this does effect how men perceive me.  I get hit on more when I’m 120 pounds not because I’m noticeably that much hotter but because I’m that much more confident so I put myself out there that much more often.  So if you’re starving yourself into some ridiculously low body fat percentage, you don’t need a boyfriend, you need a therapist.  Otherwise, figure out how you like to be active (I’m a power yoga devotee) and eat less of everything and once you feel thin, realize you are.  You’ll probably notice a few more tight fitting shirts and dresses in your closet and perhaps the next time you see a cute boy and you’re thinking of talking to him, you’ll feel thin and sexy and you just might surprise yourself by going over to say hi.  You’ll know that suddenly there’s no man out of your league because you are at the top of the league.  So stop letting ten pounds convince you, you’re not.  Stop eating so much, buy a tight dress and welcome yourself to a club you know you should be in!



Tamara Shayne Kagel is a writer living in Santa Monica, CA. To find out more about her, visit www.tamarashaynekagel.com and follow her on twitter @tamaraskagel. © Copyright 2011.

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This is terrible in so many ways that I don’t even know where to begin.

Comment by damn on 4/04/11 at 2:15 pm

I agree with the previous comment: this is absolutely ridiculous. If you want to encourage women to become physically fit and active, that’s one thing. But telling women that they must be skinny in order to gain society’s and men’s approval? You’re only perpetuating the impossible physical standard that women face day to day, and that standard will never change if you keep telling women to feel bad about their weight. And besides that, you make men sound like shallow bastards who are incapable of finding a woman attractive if that woman isn’t starving herself. Really? I think men worth a damn aren’t always fixated on a girl’s body type.

If you personally want to lose another 10 lbs. to feel good about yourself, then go ahead. But whatever you do, don’t keep writing sh*t like this.

Comment by picadilly on 4/04/11 at 2:42 pm

I’m guessing this is a joke.  An attepmt at satire.  Eh.

Comment by no haha on 4/04/11 at 2:48 pm

I was going to write a thoughtful comment that would hopefully cure your of your body dysmorphia, but it seems clear to me now that you did this as a publicity stunt.  I suppose it worked, because Jezebel linked you, but really, I seriously thought it was sloppy satire for the first few sentences. You are not a very good writer, Tamara.  Maybe go back to dancing?  Or find one of those 10s of which you speak wink

Comment by rewberbewts on 4/04/11 at 2:52 pm

This is one of the biggest problems with modern society; the assumption that being thin and having money make you a higher quality person than everyone else.
I’m not going to say I don’t feel better about myself when I’m thinner, but I would NEVER date a guy for whom my being thin was as important to him as it is to me. I DON’T WANT that guy. Rather or not someone is a “10” is a matter of opinion and, in my opinion, a guy would have to be able to cure blindness and turn water into wine to compensate for being that shallow.
I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with having physical preferences, but assuming that men who prefer thin women are always of better quality then men who like thicker women (and not every guy who dates big girls is settling, there are plenty of guys out there who’s dream girl has a little extra padding) is INCREDIBLY shallow and narrow minded.
Suppose I did get “hot” enough to snag one of these “top shelf” men of which you speak, and mannaged to stay thin troughout our entire relationship; weight isn’t the only thing that affects a persons appearance. The sort of man who’d leave me for gaining some weight would probably also leave me for getting disfigured in an accident or start cheating on me with a younger girl when I begin to show signs of age (or should I be a plastic surgery junkie too?)
Again, I DO NOT WANT that guy, he’s all yours sweetie.

Comment by oja on 4/04/11 at 2:54 pm

there is a difference between skinny and healthy. 
and honestly, a “top-tier guy with an incredible job, who makes good money, who’s smart and funny and accomplished and well-dressed with good taste who likes to ski and travel and knows how to order good wine and is well read and hot and well-spoken and went to a good school and will give you the life you always dreamed you wanted” is bullshit.  if you are looking for this person, you will not like him once you meet him.  personally, i am looking for someone that i find attractive, that loves me, has a great sense of humor, and is honest and kind.  i do not care how much money he makes, where he went to school, or if he wants to go fucking skiing.  and if you care about someone ordering good wine, then good luck to you in your life, because you will need it.  this article really made me feel sorry for you.  you are delusional.  but everyone should do whatever they need to in their life to make themselves happy.  and if you are happy with superficial, then great.  but you are in for one hell of a life; always trying to be perfect to find some perfect man.  how about just LIVE your life and enjoy the little things.  and instead of focusing on yourself and your perfect bodies, how about you go out and do something that actually means something.  like-say do some volunteer work that benefits someone else’s sad, fat and slobby life.  because honestly, there is more to life than all of this.  and if you are a “top-tier” woman, then i am really glad that i am not. 
you sound absolutely gross.  (on the inside, of course)

Comment by emily on 4/04/11 at 3:01 pm

Dear damn, picadilly, no haha, and rewberbewts,

You are all so right! We should all keep encouraging people to be lazy and overweight. Even more so, we should keep lengthening seat belts in airplanes and widening seats on buses. We should keep making excuses for all the handicapped overweight people in the US. I mean, isnt that what we see every day? What people love to watch on TV or in movies? ABSOLUTELY NOT!
We love to see beautiful people doing beautiful things, so we can fantasize that one day, we too, will be beautiful. So maybe… just, maybe… we should encourage people to stop fantasizing, eat less and actually be more like the people we fantasize about.
What do you guys say?? I bet, if we tried, we could do it together…. We could all one day be beautiful!

Comment by lil sis on 4/04/11 at 3:11 pm

Your sister is super sweet, very supportive, but you should warn her how unprofessional it looks to have family members hate on the fatties in your blog comments.  It detracts too much attention from your revelatory blog post. 

I’m gonna go not eat my dessert & have skinny sex with a successful man who will ski with me & order great wine. 

(Who gave this woman a blog?)

Comment by rewberbewts on 4/04/11 at 3:19 pm

“lil sis” i am assuming you are her little sister and approved this article.  shame on you too. 
there is plenty of in-between from 120 pounds with five pounds to lose and a person who needs two seats in an airplane.
of course people get healthy, but not for a man.  how about for yourself?
but since your sister sounds so disgusting and shallow on the inside, she really should try to make herself as “hot” as possible.  because i do not see another way for her to land a man on any tier.  hopefully she finds someone just as shallow and two birds are killed with one stone.  no one of any real value would want her or the man she is looking for so this actually works out great.

Comment by emily on 4/04/11 at 3:21 pm

Alright, I’m bored at work, & I wanted to post this because it tickled me pink.  Google this lady’s name & you’ll find an unflattering review of a certain comedic performance at Northwestern.  This part in particular caught my eye:  “The Firing Squad can’t remember the last time it heard a good anorexia nervosa joke—maybe that’s because there are none. That didn’t stop Kagel from giving it her best shot, though, as she espoused her belief that anorexia would be much more acceptable if people were more open about it. The awkward silence had nothing to do with the tough crowd, but everything to do with the painfully inappropriate subject matter.”

Oooooh girl, I get the whole, “If you don’t laugh, you cry” thing, but damn!  Get thee to a therapist instead of normalizing a very real disease. 

Link to review:  http://www.dailynorthwestern.com/2.13922/the-firing-squad-october-24-2003-1.1972800

Comment by rewberbewts on 4/04/11 at 3:36 pm

Ugh. You would be at Pepperdine Law. File this under things I do not miss about that school.

Hopefully you can land your own Ken Starr one day.

Comment by Alumni on 4/04/11 at 3:38 pm

Andy Kaufman is long gone and he did it way better.  Hello the new wanna-be train wreck, here to cash in on charlie sheenesque love to hate ca ca culture.  Wallow in it TSK.

Comment by no haha on 4/04/11 at 5:03 pm

This article was written with far too great an emphasis on sincerity for it to be considered satire in line with Kaufman’s villains. Kaufman satirized/performed the character that people loved to hate: The misogynist, the overconfident actor, the glutenous lounge act… Kagel isn’t performing, she’s actually offering life advice. Which is both strange and sad. It’s obvious that she’s got issues with her own body, and self-esteem problems that are related. She’s not in a position to be offering advice to anyone. Keep your daughters off of her blog is my advice. Side note: Kagel, you may think that being skinny gets you more attention, but have you ever asked yourself who’s attention you really want?

Comment by astounded on 4/04/11 at 5:42 pm

I think the author has achieved her primary purpose:  provocation!

Comment by former diplomat on 4/04/11 at 5:52 pm

yes, curves do not belong on women! 

that article made me HUNGRY.

Comment by Blanche DuBois on 4/04/11 at 6:13 pm

YOu can spout whatever Old School malarkey you want, but if you are going to lay claim to the title “writer,” please learn how to write. “Who” and “whom” are not interchangeable. Maybe you’re just too hungry to keep them straight.

Comment by whoyoucallingfat? on 4/04/11 at 6:49 pm

I may be the first Jewish man to write on here, but I gotta say, no matter if you think the article is in poor taste and/or poorly written, a majority of Jewish Women do not take care of their bodies properly. Jews spend half their lives praying for good health for one another.. isn’t it hypocritical to be stuffing your face with high calorie foods and not doing your body the favor of moving it around just a tiny bit every day? We’re not supposed to tattoo ourselves because we aren’t allowed to mutilate the gift our lord gave us.. well I personally think being unhealthy is the exact same thing. It doesn’t have to do with being a perfect 10 model, it has to do with being the healthy baby mama of my Jew Babies, and being able to take care of yourself! Now get off facebook and go for a walk!

Comment by A Man on 4/04/11 at 7:09 pm

*You* associate that archetypal thin body on the pages of every magazine with the definition of beauty. You fell for it. Well done.

Except I’m athletic, not stickly thin. I have yet to meet a man who doesn’t like my body as it is. Most men don’t want to fear snapping their woman in two.

I would never exchange my ass, triceps, shoulders, et al for frailty. It’s sad hungry people like you who find you attractive. You skinnies have perpetuated this pretend ideal, and if you all like it that way, and meet men who want you thin more so than happy, go with it.

Comment by Sara Wright on 4/04/11 at 7:58 pm

Wow, for a Northwestern graduate, your spelling and grammar are appalling. For a law student, your logic is poorly argued. If the degrees you’ve attained include BA and JD, and you’ve wasted them thus far. Why did you bother and not just head straight for your true terminal degree - a double MRS?

Comment by NUGrad04 on 4/04/11 at 10:08 pm

I think you have all lost sight of what Tamara is actually saying in this piece. In no way is she encouraging women to be unhealthy waif-like figures in order to find appreciation. But she does admit that your appearance is an important aspect of life in general, and that includes being thin. We would all be lying if we acted as if our appearance is an afterthought. First impressions are shallowly based on what clothes we wear, how our hair is done, what makeup we wear, and essentially our bodies. And the idea of eating salads and doing exercise in order to feel good about your body, is not really a bad idea. And in a large generalization, most people feel good about their bodies, when they are thin. So there is no need to go to the extreme here! Women should be healthy, but they can also avoid a dessert here or there. We live in a world of large double-standards, where men at 50 become more attractive and women at 50 become a thing of the past. That does not mean that as women we can NEVER indulge in the occasional treat, but it does means we should exercise our self control. We should encourage the image of health and that can many times mean that women should order the salad instead of the pasta. Isn’t being healthy and being thin related anyway????

Comment by lil sis on 4/05/11 at 4:42 am

Capitalize on those transitory looks now, because when they’re gone you’ll have nothing else to offer.  You’re the radioactive ideologue of superficiality, and any man with values and a soul should head for the hills when he sees you coming.  Your tragedy is that your ego will require that your hot alpha male be a man of substance - the guy who sees you for who you are and says, “No, thanks.”

Comment by Anon on 4/05/11 at 6:34 am

Tamara, you really are a terrible writer.  But since you’re obviously an asshole, I’m glad to hear you’re in law school.

Comment by Magstar on 4/05/11 at 8:52 am

its funny that tsk’s friends are trying to do some back peddling.  let it go! You can’t fix it. have fun trying to enjoy life with those standards.  BTW you are arguing about salad, lil sis.  educate yourself.

Comment by tee hee on 4/05/11 at 9:09 am

Hahaha..Tamara didn’t bother sugar coating any of the truths she’s come to know, but if you GENUINELY believe that honesty is the best policy..you can appreciate the essence of this article. She clearly stated that you don’t have to be a “bag of bones” in order to be percieved as beautiful, but rather encourages you to be healthy, toned and fit. No one can argue the importance of a healthy lifestyle..dieting and exercising to reach/maintain a “decent” weight is an integral part. It’s also a safe and common goal for the safe and common person. But the human body is a strong and majestic thing when pushed to reach it’s fullest potential. Athletes, dancers, and certain models are glorified for their bodies bc they undergo rigorous training to achieve those seemingly impossible results. Not everyone is built like the aforementioned individuals, but obtaining the best version of yourself is a reality..both inside AND OUTSIDE..but that’s only if you’re willing to put in the work and, let’s face it, many aren’t. Instead, they make excuses for their laziness, complain everytime they look in the mirror, and have the nerve to hate on slimmer chicks. Not once did Tamara say “STOP EATING”, but told you what ANY good personal trainer would tell you..CUT DOWN ON THE EXCESS and practice portion control. The results are a “thinner” you. There is a STRONG correlation between living a healthy lifestyle and your appearance.. now if you strive for the physically best version of yourself, then you will obviously look better (to yourself and others)..and when you look better, there is a basic psychological theory called “The Halo Effect” where people subconciously associate attractive traits (ie smart, clever, funny) to attractive people. Not saying those assumptions are accurate by any means..but it does happen (in the workplace and as well as the dating scene). Why not give yourself that edge? For those who read this article and immediately turned their face in disgust naaaamely around the part where Tamara said she was a 5’8, 120lb dancer…lol, i got 2 words for you: QUIT HATING. I don’t share her exact stats, but i’ve been privy to seeing and experiencing the difference between being a “medium sized/confortable” me versus a “thinner/more fit” me. I was already confident before but somewhere along the way, that quality grew exponentially. Congrats to those who found their soulmate and said person loves them as is..seriously, that’s awesome..but don’t look down on those that are simply trying to improve their odds and finding their idea of a perfect mate. There’s nothing wrong with having high standards, especially if you hold yourself to those same requirements. I don’t think Tamara was advocating shallow relationships based soley on looks..that’s foolish..but it doesn’t hurt to look your best for the individual you love the most. Aren’t they worth the effort? The example of the type of guy Tamara used may not be your cup of tea..cool..but don’t dismiss the theory altogether. Step your game up, get your shit togther, and watch as a flood of opportunities come your way. It’s an amazing feeling to know NOTHING is out of your grasp.

Comment by BigUps on 4/05/11 at 12:52 pm

I couldn’t read your whole garbage paragraph.  If you are a shallow excuse for a woman, own it.  You know?!  What makes you think that the people reading this are not thin?  Can a naturally slender person disagree with this delusion? BTW, blogging about your height and weight is insanely narcisistic.  She must really be starved for attention.  I think she is in need of serious introspection. Go crack a book of the third wave of the feminist movement.  By all means continue to defend this hegemonic trash, you seem so intelligent while you do so. Really.

Comment by wha on 4/05/11 at 5:29 pm

Vapid and mediocre; I assume the art reflects the artist.

Comment by Kagel on 4/05/11 at 8:33 pm

Speaking truth to power is never especially popular… but bravo to Tamara for speaking a truth that is universally, if silently, acknowledged to be true. I always admire people who say out loud what most of us are too afraid to say.

Also, as a Ph.D. candidate in English at Harvard, I must say that clinging to ‘who’ vs ‘whom’ is exceedingly petty in a world where even the subjunctive is rare. I’m pretty conservative linguistically, but inflected pronouns… most of us have better ways to spend our time!

Comment by SPR 02 on 4/06/11 at 3:25 pm

I agree. Really though. This may be a little harsh, but generally people who are “skinny” are in better health.

Comment by I am skinny on 4/06/11 at 3:29 pm

Petty comments like these are inevitable. Morally empty fruitflies usually have fruits buzzing around them.

Also, as a Ph.D. candidate in English at Harvard, I must say that clinging to ‘fruit’ vs ‘fag’ is exceedingly petty in a world where even the subjunctive is rare.

Comment by Spr 03 on 4/06/11 at 3:41 pm

Skinny is the ABSOLUTE WRONG word to be using here.  Just because people are skinny does not make them healthy.  And just because a girl has some meat (not a ton, but it’s there) does not mean she is unhealthy.  This sort of article is what is driving girls to diseases like anorexia.  You should be absolutely ashamed of yourself.  You are in law school.  I would think you would be a bit more aware about the words you are using and the effect they have.

Comment by Anonymous on 4/11/11 at 9:59 am

http://www.nytimes.com/2011/04/12/health/12orthodox.html?hp

Comment by Only the Rabbi Knows! on 4/11/11 at 5:25 pm

If you guys are seriously going to sit here and pretend like what she’s saying isn’t the truth, you are all mental.

You know she has a point.

Comment by Mychaela on 4/28/11 at 7:30 pm

Thank you all for your taking the time to share your thoughts.  I’ve read and thought about them all.  I’ve posted my response here. 
http://www.jewishjournal.com/tattletales/item/date_down_or_slim_down_20110614/

Comment by Tamara Shayne Kagel on 6/14/11 at 9:17 am

I think both blogs are on this subject are ridiculous.

http://www.jewishjournal.com/keepingthefaith/item/battle_of_the_blog_old_vs_young_battle_of_the_bulge_skinny_vs_fat_2011061/

Comment by Ilana Angel on 6/19/11 at 10:27 am

Tamara is right. She is stating the truth in a clear way. Her advice comes as rebuke to many overweight people; it hurts, but it is still the truth. She is right that the feel good revolution has made people lazier. She is absolutely right that we should strive to be the person we want to marry. You can’t expect to marry someone who is exercises daily if you don’t exercise youself. I empathuze with those who feel hurt about Tamara’s advice. But, we feel bad about ourselves because we know she is right. Her genius is putting into words what we know, but afraid to say. Appearance matters and healthy bodies are more attractive that lazy ones.

Comment by S on 7/22/11 at 11:23 am

as sad as it is it IS the truth. face it!! yes men will love you for who you are inside BUT it is that physical attraction that draws them to want to get to know you. come on how many of us are guilty of staring at the hot guy and skipping over the tubby ones??? its all about being happy when you look in the mirror and feeling sexy as hell when your naked! i feel best when thin and active. if you feel sexy with extra weight then go for it, own it but i highly doubt many people do. look people this is a discussion. there is no need to be aggressive in your opinion. trust me as someone with a pro ana lifestyle it IS NOT ARTICLES LIKE THIS THAT ARE CAUSE EATING DISORDERS!! it is the tv. the magazines. the pro ana tip and trick website. its bullies in school.

Comment by liz on 8/03/11 at 2:07 am

You state, “So if you’re starving yourself into some ridiculously low body fat percentage, you don’t need a boyfriend, you need a therapist.”  Dearie, do you realize that at 5’8”, 115 and 120 lbs, your BMI (measurement of body fat based height and weight) is 17.5 and 18.2 respectively, according to U.S. Department of Health and Human Services’ National Heart, Lung & Blood Institute (http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/).  The healthy BMI range starts at 18.5, so you’re underweight at 120 lbs and wishing to be even more underweight at 115 lbs, but feel uncomfortable and less confident at a normal weight of 125 lbs.  Hmmm. So who’s “starving [herself] into a ridiculously low body fat percentage” and perhaps “needs a therapist”?  Maybe you! Now understand, I am pro-skinny, but I am also careful to be honest with myself and stay within healthy limits, especially before upbraiding others.

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