My Midwest friends started tying the knot at 19. Some of them had been double knotted by the time they were 25. I, on the other hand, waited until I was 35 to tie the knot for the first time, and my husband, Aaron, who is 11 years older than me, took his initial walk down the aisle at age 46, with salt-and-pepper hair and laugh lines under the eyes. Although I would not necessary recommend waiting for Social Security, there are many big benefits of marrying later in life.
Cinema suddenly seems preoccupied with male midlife crises ("Winter Solstice," "In Good Company") and actor Peter Riegert joins the trend with his comic directorial debut feature, "King of the Corner."
Yvan Attal huddles on a velvet couch in a corner of the cavernous Chateau Marmont lobby, a study in nervous energy. The Israeli-born French actor-director, who is charming if energetic, furrows his brow and runs his fingers through his tousled black hair. It's not hard to believe that one of his film idols is Woody Allen ("I identify with his neuroses") or that he makes films that serve as personal therapy.
Consider his new dark comedy, the frenetically paced "Happily Ever After," which explores his midlife crisis. He got the idea in 2003 when he dropped his son off at preschool and noticed most of the other parents were divorced.
"I began thinking about my own life and the choices I have made, and they felt enormous and scary," he said.
My 29-year-old cousin, "Barry," is having his first "midlife" crisis. By simple math, this would put his entire life span at a scant 58 years, well shy of the actuarial tables' prediction. His midlife crisis should be about 10 years hence. It's been a slow week over here at my place, so let's take a look at his misery, shall we?
Barry falls short of the $1 million he'd counted on having in the bank by, oh, about $1 million and change. He could live with that, but now his car lease is up and it looks like he'll be downsizing out of the go-go '90s-era "starter" Lexus into something more in line with his new budget -- something with really great mileage. His sense of entitlement is badly bruised by something called "reality." He checks his cholesterol. He wears sunscreen. He takes Viagra. He's a little old man.