Dating is not brain surgery, but for some men it is more difficult. I think I've discovered why. The current thinking on intelligence is that people have several types of intelligence, which may not be equally developed.
Psychologist Daniel Goleman coined the phrase "emotional intelligence" or EI. He defined EI as "knowing one's emotions, managing emotions, motivating oneself, recognizing emotions in others and handling relationships." Goleman and others have found that EI has little correlation with IQ. They are on to something.