And the man who uses the pick-up line "let me rescue you from your early 30s neuroticism" is definitely the wrong man.
Some people say you can learn everything you need to know about a person on the first date.That's when people reveal themselves, because it's before they feel something is at stake. Will she like me? What will he think of me? I hope I make a good impression.The beginning -- the preliminary phone call, the casual party conversation, the unwitting meeting of total strangers on a plane, an elevator, a funeral (don't ask) -- is the best time to glean all the information you can from a person.It's kind of like being a police investigator at a crime scene.