It is very simple. As most genius is (in retrospect).
As an entrepreneur, mother, friend, lover, spouse or whatever valuable role you play: are you a thermostat or thermometer?
A thermostat sets the temperature that it expects.
A thermometer reads the current temperature.
If you are just an observer, being a thermometer works. But in your life, you are a thermostat. Your company and your family look to you to successfully set expectations and regulate. The dangerous place is to act as a thermometer when you are positioned as a thermostat.