I'm no longer a virgin. To Israel, that is. This single babe just returned from her maiden voyage to the land of milk and honey. And all I can say is -- there were a lot of honeys. Jewish men everywhere.
In the restaurants, on the streets, in the shops -- I didn't know where to flirt first. Forget a kid in a candy store, I was like a Jew in a bagel store. I'll take a dozen -- hot ones if you have them. Israel is a single Jewish girl's fantasy.
Take one of my Tel Aviv adventures. I was downing a Maccabee Beer in a disco on the pier when it hit me: Every guy in this club is Jewish -- they're all fair game. The cute guy in the corner, the tall guy drinking Goldstar, the fine guy who asked me to dance and the young guy who could not ask at all. Every man here has a "for sale" sign. This must be what the rest of the world feels like -- everyone they meet is a potential mate.
In Los Angeles, it's all about the Jew-crew prescreen for me. When I get to a bar, first thing I do is a lap. OK, first thing I do is a shot. Second thing I do is a lap. Once I locate the hot guys, the real fun begins. Will the real Slim Schwartzie please stand up? OK, it's not that bad. But without a secret password or members-only handshake, I have to do some fast detective work to uncover the boys' roots. I open with subtle overtures like, "Where'd you go to school? When'd you graduate? When was your bar mitzvah?" Sometimes I slip in the, "Hi, my name's Carin. What's your last name?" or the ever-popular "Can I buy you a drink? Are you circumcised?" We even turn it into a drinking game, "Name That Jew." Every time you correctly ID a Jew in a bar, you pound a beer.
Some guys pass the Tribe test, but in a room of 100 random American men, statistics say I've narrowed my options to 2.2 of them. One of them is probably hitting on the 21-year-old blonde who's up for a WB pilot and the other is usually a band geek without an instrument.
By dating only Jews, I really limit my pool. We're not talking Olympic-size pool or even kiddie pool. Picture the small plastic pool you can purchase at Toys R Us. No -- picture a bathtub. That's my sample size.
So why put myself through that? Why restrict myself to .02 percent of the single men in the world? I haven't always. In college I dated and fell love with an incredible Catholic guy. I told myself we'd work the religion thing out, we could compromise. But eventually I realized I didn't want to compromise. Not about this. Judaism is an essential part of my life, it's Carin to the core. I'd be lying to myself if I said it wasn't. So now I only pick up Jews. Cuz' you never know when that flirt's gonna lead to a date, and that date to a relationship and that relationship to a puffy white dress and a drunken wedding hora. So for me it's Heeb or nothing.
It'd be easier if I went outside the Jewish circle. I'd meet more men, I'd go on more dates, I could be married by now. But not under a chuppah. And there's the snag. Dancing in that Tel Aviv club, I realized what it feels like to have my choice of any man at the bar. It feels amazing -- I love the multiple choice. But more importantly, I realized what it feels to be in a bar packed with fellow Jews. The connection I felt to the people in the room -- these were my peeps. And my future husband, he's gonna be one of us. While dating only Jews limits my choices, it's the only choice for me. Which is why I loved Israel's all-you-can-date buffet. I was dancing on a platform in that Tel Aviv club when my friend, Amy, introduced us.
"Carin, this is Eli."
I owe Amy big time. In the movie of his life, Eli was hot enough to play himself. He had a cocky smile and a tight little Israeli boot-camp bootie. I didn't have to hunt for the hecksher before we started kissing. In Israel, you know the guys are kosher.
If only it were that easy in Los Angeles. I'm back in Hollywood and trawling the scene for Jewish men. It's frustrating, looking for mensch in a haystack. I miss my Israeli all-access pass. When a date goes poorly in Los Angeles, we say there's always more fish in the sea. But in Israel, there's a whole sea of Jewish fish waiting to be caught.
Carin Davis is a freelance writer and can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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