September 6, 2012
Life Lessons For Elul – 2012
Soren Kierkegaard said: “It is perfectly true, as philosophers say, that life must be understood backwards. But they forget the other proposition, that it must be lived forwards.”
Though we are always living forward, the life lessons we learn helps to shape our future. Since this is the season of self-examination leading to Rosh Hashanah in 9 days, I offer to you a list of 32 life lessons I’ve learned in my nearly 63 years – there are others, but the number 32 is a significant one in the mystical tradition. It equals the 22 letters of the Hebrew aleph bet plus the 10 “words” of the covenant, and it is the number equivalent for the Hebrew word Lev (lamed – beit), heart, which the mystics teach are the number of pathways to God.
I offer the following, some of which I’ve borrowed gratefully from a 90 year old lady named Regina Brett and published in the Plain Dealer from Cleveland, Ohio (in italics).
They are not necessarily a way to God, but a means to a healthier, wiser and more sacred way of living, at least as I’ve come to believe in them. I encourage you to draw up your own list.
1. God gave us life and our natural abilities only – everything else is either up to us or a result of dumb luck.
2. Life isn't always fair, but it’s still good.
3. Life is short, so cut your losses early.
4. Begin planning for retirement as a teen-ager by developing your passions and interests, for they will sustain you when you get old.
5. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up your present.
6. You don't have to win every argument, so at a certain point stop arguing.
7. Love your spouse above all other people and things. If you aren’t married, then nurture the special friendships in your life.
8. Don't compare your life to anyone else’s as you have no idea what their journey has been all about.
9. If you can’t publish what you want to say or do on the front page of The NY Times, then don’t say or do it.
10. Try not to speak ill of anyone else, but if you must, do so only with trusted friends and then only in order to understand better how to cope better with people like that.
11. Don’t procrastinate seeing doctors. It may save your life.
12. Carpe diem. Take pleasure in this day and do that which inspires you for we don’t know what tomorrow will bring.
13. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
14. Breathe deeply as it calms the heart, mind, body, and soul.
15. Take your shoes off whenever possible as studies indicate that doing so will prolong your life.
16. Too much alcohol and drugs dull the mind and loosen the lips compelling us to say things we may mean but don’t want said and to say things we may not mean at all.
17. Get a dog or a cat for the love for and from such a creature is unlike anything else you will ever know.
18. Over prepare, and then go with the flow.
19. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.
20. Speak the truth but only when you know you can be effective and only if it doesn’t cause another person unnecessary harm or hurt. Otherwise, just be quiet.
21. Stand up to bullies wherever they are and whenever you encounter them.
22. Time really does heal almost everything.
23. Don’t fear or resist change for it is natural, necessary and an opportunity for growth.
24. Love is not just a matter of the heart – it comes from God.
25. Learn Torah as often as possible – it will enrich, change and enhance your life and it will inspire you to do things you might never choose to do otherwise.
26. Being outdoors is almost always better than being indoors.
27. Don’t envy anyone else’s talent, circumstances or life – you already have everything you require.
28. Be modest.
29. Be forgiving.
30. Be kind.
31. Be generous.
32. Be grateful.
Now, let’s live our lives forward.