January 22, 2010
Sex and the City
Last night I went out for dinner with a group of girlfriends. I was hoping to be able to get my mojo back and flirt with the waiter but she wasn’t my type. She was also the bartender, so that was two possibilities out the window. The one waiter there was old enough to be my dad, and it was pouring rain, so the valet guy was not going to be an option. Sorry Tamar. I really tried.
Once I came to terms with the fact that it was a night of just the ladies, I settled in for a lovely evening. I worked with this group of women at the Shoah Foundation. We spent years together in a stressful job and it created a bond that is very special. We can speak in shorthand with each other and have a million memories together.
We have gone through weddings, divorces and a gaggle of boyfriends together. Last night however, was the first time that we have all been together where I was the only single one. We went to Bokado, a great little Spanish/Tapas restaurant. Like the women of Sex and the City, we ordered cosmos and settled in for 3 hours of catch up.
“C” is the matriarch. I have loved her for as long as I can remember. She dresses impeccably and in the 14 years I have known her, she has never had a bad hair day. She is a grandmother, but you’d never know it. Her husband adores her. They were high school sweethearts and if I didn’t know and love them, their perfectness would totally annoy me. You can mention any name from the Los Angeles Jewish community and she’s got a story about that person. She’s a hoot and sat at the head of the table as our fearless leader.
“B” is the person who hired me to work at the Foundation 13 years ago. She is probably the nicest person I have ever met in my life. There is not an unkind bone in this girl’s body. She is an angel and I truly feel blessed to know her. She had a beautiful wedding and her husband is a remarkable man. They are the loveliest of couples and hoping to start a family soon. She will be an amazing mother. When I was getting divorced she was the fist person I told. She has a nurturing energy that makes people feel safe and loved.
“M” is an amazing girl and I love her. She has the most generous heart and spirit. She got married last year to her dream man. He is tall, Jewish, handsome, smart and a total mensch. I cannot picture her with anyone else, which is weird since I told her she should dump him! They dated for a long time and I thought she might be wasting her time with a man who could not commit. Thank God she didn’t listen! They are my favorite couple. I have been spending a lot of time with them and it has changed how I view my own life and my goals. Her husband is my go to guy for a man’s opinion, which a great thing to have. They too are hoping to start a family and I wish them blessings. They are wonderful people and deserve nothing but joy.
“JK” is hilarious. She has a daughter that just went off to college last fall and she misses her baby so much. I can tell how sad she is by her Facebook status everyday. She is a great teacher to me. She has just one child and is divorced. Out paths are very similar and I learn from what she goes through, knowing I will follow close behind. She really put herself out there in terms of dating. She was very proactive and has now met the one. Her boyfriend is wonderful. They met online and he is it. It is inspiring and I imagine that one day they will just decide to get married and it will be spontaneous. She is my hero in terms of looking for love. She never gave up, never settled for good enough, and is now with her Beshert.
“J” has been my closest friend. I introduced her to her husband and she said a blessing at my son’s Bar Mitzvah. We recently had a disagreement and last night was the first time I had seen her in a while. It was lovely to be with her. I miss her and hopeful that things will be sorted out.
It was a wonderful evening. We figured it was time to go when our waitress came to say goodbye because she was leaving for the night. When we are all together we always laugh, sometimes cry, reminisce and manage to share our dreams and goals. Friends are important and I am a lucky girl to count these ladies among mine. They have been with me in times of joy and sorrow and they are one of the main reasons I am able to always keep the faith.