April 29, 2010
Sandra Bullock is a Hero, Elin Woods is a Doormat & Sex Addiction is Lame
Sandra Bullock did what so many women were hoping she would. She filed for divorce. Not only did she file for divorce, but in her legal papers, rather than use the Hollywood favorite of “irreconcilable differences”, she listed the cause of her divorce as: “The marriage has become insupportable because of discord or conflict of personalities that destroys the legitimate end of the marriage/relationship and prevents any reasonable expectations of reconciliation.”
I loved Sandra Bullock before this whole mess started. Now, not only do I love her, but I also respect and admire her. She is brave and strong, and unlike Elin Woods, she respects herself enough to walk away from a man who did not respect her, and their life together. Elin Woods should pay very close attention to how Ms. Bullock is handling herself through all of this. It’s not too late for her to come to her senses, and walk away from her disgusting, lying and cheating husband. Don’t be a doormat Elin. Take another look at what Tiger did, and walk away. Be brave.
I am getting bored with men who say they are suffering from sex addiction. It is a convenient label to put on yourself when you have crossed a line, and there appears to be no way back. What they are suffering from, is a case of “I’m famous-she won’t leave me-I can sleep with anyone I want, porn star loving-Nazi worshipping-money seeking-skanky whore digging-I don’t care what my kids will think of me-itis.” This ailment is more commonly known as, “Imadouchelorditis.” Sadly, there is no cure.
We found out that Sandra had filed for divorce, on the same day she shared with the world that she had adopted a little boy, named Louis. This delicious little baby is 3 months old, and was born in New Orleans. She had been working on the adoption forever, and the steps that were taken to get him, were done with James. The more we learn about what has been going in Sandra’s life, the more crushing her situation becomes. She was building a life with a man who was secretly undermining everything she did.
Bad enough that James sat by while Sandra publically thanked him, in every single acceptance speech she gave during the Hollywood awards season, but he sat there crying, pretending to be moved by her love for him, when really he was crying because he knew that they had just received this child, as a blessing into their lives, and he was going to lose it all. While she planned out her future with this man and their baby, he was banging skanky whores, and sat there knowing the end was in sight, but acting like the devoted husband.
Jesse James told People Magazine: “The love I have for Louis cannot be put to words. Not having him around to love and to hold has left a huge hole in my heart. Sandy is the love of my life, but considering the pain and devastation I have caused her, it would be selfish to not let her go. Right now it is time for me to beat this addiction that has taken two of the things I love the most in life.” Are you kidding me? Really? Jesse James is a pig, and if he thinks we’re buying this load of crap, then he is also a moron.
How dare he say that it would be selfish for him to not let her go? It has nothing to do with you buddy. Even if you begged, which I’m sure you did, she wouldn’t take you back. She has too much respect for herself, her child, and her heart, to stay with you. Where you worried about how selfish you were being while you slept with other women? Are you so delusional that you think dealing with your “sex addiction” will make it all better?
Sandra is a hero. To every woman who has been broken, she is a hero. To all the women who are in relationships right now, where they know they are being disrespected, gather strength from her, and get out. To Elin Woods, get out. It is better to forge ahead on your own, even if you are heartbroken and scared, than stay with a man who does not respect you, and your life together. Sandra Bullock filing for divorce was brave, and the right thing to do. Period.
I know it’s a private matter. I know she is not obligated to share her story with anybody. Just because she is a celebrity, she does not owe us a thing. I get it. The bottom line though, is that we feel like we know her. We felt her joy when she was winning accolades, and we felt her heartache when all this happened. For her to open up and let us in, shows that in addition to respecting herself, she respects her fans. Sandra Bullock is a movie star. Not a celebrity, but a good old-fashioned movie star. She respected not only herself, but also her fans.
I know her new baby, Louis, will give her the strength to move ahead, and build a new life. Loving a child can make even the darkest times seem like they are passing quickly. There is something special about a mother and son that is indefinable. I love my son, and every single decision I make revolves around him. Everything happens for a reason, and that all this went down while they were adopting is a blessing. She lost a tool, and gained an angel. Fair trade.
To Sandra and Louis, Mazel Tov on finding your way to each other. We wish you all good things. To Sandra, bravo. You are an inspiration, and your actions will perhaps allow another woman in a similar situation, to be strong, walk away, and keep the faith.
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