April 21, 2010
Kate Gosselin Off DWTS Made Me Cry + I Liked Octomom on Oprah = Hell Just Froze Over
Hell must have frozen over, because last night, when Kate Gosselin got voted off of Dancing With The Stars, I cried. She was crushed to go home and I felt really, really bad for her. To be clear, not only did she need to go, but she never should have been there.
I feel horrible for this woman. They dragged her elimination on for 45 minutes, which was insane. It was reality television magic, but almost uncomfortable to watch. When she was told she was off, and started to cry, I started crying with her.
I am a single mother, with one child. I can remember times when my son was little, when I would drive home from work, with my baby in the back seat, and I would cry the entire drive because I was so exhausted. Being a mother is hard work, doing it alone, is even harder.
This woman does not have the warmest, or bubbliest, personality. Even when she does something as simple as smile, she looks uncomfortable. I feel bad for her, and her sadness at being voted off, was palpable. In the end, I imagine her being on this show was more important than we ever thought.
Any of us would have done the show, if we were in her shoes. When you need to support eight kids, you don’t turn away from $200,000. When your ex-husband is a Douchelord, and you have to raise eight kids, you don’t turn away from $200.00. I don’t know why she was there, but now I’m sad she’s gone.
It’s unfortunate that nobody in her “camp”, tried to help her. It seems to me that if someone had given her some media training, she could have turned it around, and stayed a little longer. Kate Gosselin is a tragic figure. She became famous for having so many kids, and is famous now for having no talent.
Time will tell if doing the show was worth the money. She appears to be even more deflated now, so maybe it wasn’t. The thought of the Douchelord taking pleasure in her leaving, is enough to put me over the edge. I wish her luck, and suggest that before her new shows, she get some smiling lessons.
Nadya Suleman, “Octomom”, was on Oprah yesterday, and again I found myself crying. I feel just horrible for this woman, as her life seems to be driven by desperation. She clearly loves her children, but is in way over her head, and comes across as more defeated than happy.
The Oprah show spent 24 hours in her house, and I was exhausted just watching. Again, I can think back to when my son was a baby, and not sleeping, and my feeding him in the middle of the night, crying because I was just so very tired. I had one child and it was hard, so her life is unimaginable to me.
I do not doubt for one second that she loves her children. She was honest in the interview, and I came away from it really liking her. Clearly she is doing the best that she can. While she did not think out her decision to have more children, her decisions now, appear to be made with a smarter mind.
You just got the sense, by reading through the lines of her answers, that there are days, when she has had no sleep, and there is no money, and babies are crying, and the older kids are acting out, that she seriously wishes she had made a different choice for her life.
That is a horrible position to be in. There are 14 kids, and it’s too much to handle, especially on your own, but what do you do now? She loves her children, and she is not able to give them back, and won’t give them away, so she is stuck in a life that is draining, with no relief in sight.
I found Nadya to be articulate, charming, and tragic. For the first time, I not only liked her, but I wanted to hug her. She has had a lot of opportunities to whore out herself, and her kids, for money. Her choices, although not always smart, appear to be in the best interest of her kids.
Kate is exhausted with her 8 kids, and Nadya is sleepwalking with her 14. In comparison, I am able to view my life, and be proud of the decisions I’ve made. No matter what these women choose to share with the masses about their lives, we will never understand what it is like to walk in their shoes.
I love my child. When I was younger, I always thought I would have a lot of kids. Until recently, I had hoped I would have another one. This morning, I went into the room of my one, gorgeous, smart, funny, charming and perfect sleeping son’s room to wake him up for school, I cried again.
Being a mother is the greatest joy of my life. Through all the ups and downs, obstacles and tests, stress and drama, tears and frustration, that come with being a single parent, I would not change a thing. I am blessed, and having one child is enough to fill my heart with love forever.
To Kate and Nadya, I wish you, and all of your children, the best. No matter what people think about you, and regardless of what I have written about you, you have my respect. I don’t know how good of a job you are doing raising your kids, I do know however, that you’re doing the best you can.
We must trust our gut that we are doing a good job as parents. I remember in my own childhood, thinking my mother was the greatest person on the planet one minute, and others when I thought she was insane. How will my son look back at his childhood and me? I am keeping the faith.