February 9, 2011
Dating + Valentine’s Day + Diamond Commercials = the Making of a Cat Lady
We are 6 days away from Valentine’s Day. I think having a day dedicated to love is a beautiful thing. I have Jewish friends who do not celebrate Valentine’s Day because they feel it is not permitted for Jews, and I respect their views, but I love this day and will be celebrating.
I have a date for dinner with my son, and I am really looking forward to it. That a 15 year old boy is willing to go out for dinner with his mom, on Valentine’s Day, and actually said yes when asked to be her Valentine, is a blessing. I am very proud of our relationship.
Dating around Valentine’s Day is a drag. I feel stress around New Year’s because it’s nice to have a date to kiss and ring in the New Year, but Valentine’s Day is just sad. When you are hoping to have love in your life, this day is a painful reminder that you don’t and commercials don’t help.
I’m super sensitive and sappy all the time, but diamond commercials around this time of year are brutal. Last night I sat on the couch, with my cats, when a commercial for Kay Jewelers came on, and I cried. I looked at the cats and started to explain to them why I was crying.
Yes it’s true, I spoke to my cats as if they not only understood me, but were sympathetic to my feelings. In talking to them, I was not inspired to go online and try to meet someone new and fabulous. Instead, I wondered if perhaps I should go to the animal shelter and get another cat.
Is this a sign? Could I be in the early stages of Cat-lady-itis? When getting a cat is more important than getting a date, should I be concerned? Was it only a matter of time before my priorities shifted and the companionship of a cat trumped the companionship of a man?
I joke about it a lot, but could there now be an underlying truth to my jokes? Am I really a cat lady? I have a date on Thursday night so I will try to shift my focus off the cats and back on dating. It could go either way. Maybe it’s just a phase I’m going through as I approach 45.
I am blessed to want a man and not need one. I love my cats, and my son will be the perfect date for Valentine’s Day. All is well and I will let you know how Thursday goes. The good news is there is a new Jewish dating site I am going to try so there is hope. I am keeping the faith.