July 1, 2010
An Anniversary, An Online Dating Experiment, and JDate To The Rescue
It’s hard to believe it’s been a year since I wrote my first article for the Jewish Journal, and began my blogging journey with Keeping The Faith. It started out as look at dating over 40 in Los Angeles. 312 entries later, it has evolved into so much more.
I have written about my son, being a single parent, reality television, being Jewish, dating Jewish, sex, porn, heartache, happiness, loss, love, hate, friends, family, being alone, being scared, and getting older, to mention just a few topics.
I have had monthly readership ranging from 50 to 50,000. I have regular viewers who read because they can relate to what is happening in my life, and those who drop in by accident, while surfing the web. It’s been an interesting year to say the least.
While I cover a broad list of subjects, the blogs that gets the most attention, are the ones where I write about politics, religion, sex, and online dating. Not only do those entries bring in the most readers, they also bring in the most comments.
My readers know I think Sarah Palin has nice boots, I only dates Jews, I want to get married, single moms are vibrant and sexy, and that while online dating, I have met pigs, schmucks, heroes, geniuses, morons, super models, trolls, comedians, and a mensch or two.
After being on Match, Plenty Of Fish, eHarmony, Nerve, Yahoo, and Jewish American Singles, I am still single, still searching, still hopeful, and still fascinated that Jewish men are unable to tell the difference between separated and divorced, or 5’ 6” and 5’ 10,
I was recently contacted by two top online dating sites in the world. Staff at both of the sites had been reading my blog, and felt strongly I could meet the man of my dreams, my beshert, through their services. I blogged about their contacting me, and that’s where JDate comes in.
I have been using JDate on and off for years. In fact, both of my last two relationships were with men I met through JDate. While both of those men decided to rip out my heart, stomp on it, and leave it for dead, I still continued to try to find love online, just not through JDate.
It’s makes no sense that a woman who is open to dating online, and only dates Jewish men, would not be on JDate. One would think JDate is exactly where I should be searching for love. I have been boycotting JDate, not because of their service, but because it’s where my heart was broken.
It was easy for me to blame JDate for my heartache, because I met these two men through their site. It turns out however, that educated, handsome, and charming Jewish men can be asses. It’s not because they are on JDate, it’s just simply because they are asses.
When I blogged about how I was being courted to have an exclusive dating agreement with one of these sites, JDate jumped into the mix, and so here we are. If a Jewish singles blogger, is going to participate in an online dating experiment, the only place that makes sense, is JDate.
The question I am trying to answer is this: Can love be found online? Before answering that question, it’s important to define what love is. It’s not about getting a date, or making a friend. It’s about finding a meaningful, committed, monogamous, and lasting love, online, with a mensch.
Jdate thinks I can do it, and I believe them, so here we are. For the next six months, I am going to date exclusively online through JDate. I will use the services they provide, attend their events, follow their advice, and give the process the attention and time that is required.
If you are on JDate already, let me now how it’s going for you. I would love to hear about your experience. If you have a great online dating story, good or bad, please share, and I will blog about it. If you come across someone you want me to check out, let me know.
If you are single, looking, and have not taken the plunge, then join JDate with me. Today is my first day, so let’s do it together. We are going to be brave, bold, honest and committed to the process. It’s always easier to take a leap when you have someone to hold on to.
I believe love can be found online, and I know that as a Jew, JDate is where I should be looking. I’m ready to trust myself, trust the process, sort through the frogs, put it all out there, and take it seriously, without taking it all too seriously.
It’s not all going to be violins and roses. If some of the men I meet suck, and undoubtedly some of them will, I’m going to tell you about it. I will meet men who have lied about their age, height, marital status, and intentions, and I will tell you all about it, no holds barred.
I am honest, open and fearless in what I am willing to share, and God bless JDate for embracing that, and allowing me to do my thing. Regardless of the good, the bad, and the ugly, they have given me their blessing to share the experience, in my own way.
I think that says a lot about who they are as a company. They can’t control what people write about themselves, or the lies they may tell. All they can do, is provide us with options, a forum to voice our concerns, and advice on how to best utilize their services, to successfully find love.
It will be interesting to see what happens. There are no guarantees of course, but there is hope, and that is half the battle. I look forward to working with JDate to find my beshert, and whether it takes a week, a few months, or forever, I believe he is out there, so I am keeping the faith.