August 20, 2010
A Stranger Becomes A Friend
I did something today that I rarely do. In fact, it is only the second time I have ever done it. I reached out to a reader, and had a conversation on the phone, rather than though the abyss that is the Internet. It’s a scary leap of faith.
Last year I got an email from a reader explaining her daughter was undergoing chemotherapy, and my blogs about The Bachelor, made her laugh. She would comment for her daughter once a week, and I looked forward to them each week as they made me laugh.
Her daughter had been sick since she was a little girl, and sadly past away last year. Her mother, my reader, wrote me an email to let me know she had lost her only child, and thanked me for giving them moments of laughter while she was so sick.
I immediately sent her my personal contact information and told her to call anytime. About four months later, I got a call. We spoke for about three hours. That was the first time I spoke to a reader.
This lovely woman lost her child, and was comforting me on the phone. Since that call, we have become friends. She lives on the east coast and reads my blog daily. She never comments, but certainly shares her opinion when we talk on the phone.
I love her, and I hold her daughter close to my heart. She’s reading, so I will say hello friend. You are a remarkable human being and I am blessed and honored to call you my friend. You are an inspiration to me, and I am a better mother because of you.
Over the past few weeks I have been bombarded with comments about my blog regarding the reality television show Bethenny Getting Married. It’s been classic mean girl, high school crap. I can take it, but yesterday, the mean girls took aim at a reader.
One reader in particular was mocked and made fun of. I know this reader by her posting name only. She comments all the time, is funny and sweet. I have enjoyed her take on the things I write about, as she has always been honest and fearless in her comments.
Not only was she attacked by another reader, but she defended me. When there was some slanderous garbage posted on a twitter page by one of the mean girls, this woman wrote to tell me, so I was aware of what was happening. It was very kind of her.
She wrote me an email with her contact information, and apologized for the negative turn the comments had taken. I could feel her sadness at being involved, and it broke my heart, so I gave her a call to say hello and thank you. She had my back, and I appreciated it.
We chatted for over an hour. She lives back east, is married with two fabulous kids, and is about the sweetest woman I have ever met. She was generous of spirit, and it was lovely. She reached out a hand to a complete stranger, and that is a rare thing
She has had a very interesting life and is funny, smart, decent, kind, a terrific wife and a remarkable mother. To hear her talk about her family is uplifting. She loves them with everything that she is, and you can feel it.
I am so pleased to count her as a friend. This woman left the safety of her home and climbed into the black hole of the Internet, to defend a total stranger. I think that is lovely, and I feel blessed to have met her, even if it was simply over the phone.
My blog started out with two readers, one of which was my mother. It has grown into something that I can’t really wrap my head around. I am grateful to everyone who reads, thankful to those to take the time to comment, and grateful to those who can disagree with integrity.
Thank you to everyone. To these two lovely ladies to have crossed over from someone a click away, to my friend, thank you. You are the blessings of this blog. I wish you all a wonderful weekend, a peaceful and restful Shabbat, and the ability to always Keep the Faith.