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August 26, 2010 | 7:43 am

Tiger Woods is a Liar & Elin Nordegren is Classy but Naive

Posted by Ilana Angel

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This week's People cover

The Ex Mrs. Woods gave her first and only interview to People magazine this week.  She says she wants us all to know she did not have any idea her husband was living a double life.  Thanks for telling us, but why talk now?  She has been silent for months, and insists she is private and does not want to be a celebrity, yet is on the cover of a celebrity magazine in a glamour shot, telling us “money can’t buy happiness or put my family back together.”

Even if the estimates are over blown and she only got half of the reported $100 million, that is what is interesting.  We know it was hard, we know she was blindsided, we know he was an idiot, and she should have gotten more.  It would of been refreshing for her to talk about the money.  Not in specific amounts, but to say her life is blessed, beyond “Money doesn’t make you happy, but I have to be honest: It is making some things easier.”

I believe she is heartbroken from what Tiger did to her and their life together.  She is a remarkable mother, and a classy lady.  I think she is naive though, if she thinks we believe money does not make it hurt a little less.  She is young, gorgeous, and rich.  That’s not bad, but she was a nanny, married for a few years, had her heart broken and is now set for life.  It would have been cool if she said something about the financial freedom.

Elin told People magazine:  “I’ve been through hell.  It’s hard to think you have this life, and then all of a sudden — was it a lie? You’re struggling because it wasn’t real. But I survived. It was hard, but it didn’t kill me.”  She is living with her two children only a mile away from Tiger, in a gated community where Woods needs permission to pass through.  I don’t know why I like this part so much, but I do.  Have the guard buzz you in douchelord.

Says she got through the past nine months with long walks and therapy. It is crushing and he was a pig who put her life and the lives of her children in jeopardy, but the money helped as much as the walking did. He had unprotected sex, with many women, while having unprotected sex with his wife, and conceiving a child.  I’m thinking he was not asking for medical records from his skanks.  She should have gotten all his money.

Not a lot of women scorned are able to walk away with the ability to never have to worry about money.  Ever.  I like her and think she is lovely, I just feel disappointed that she was not more open.  If you’re going to talk, go big.  We are interested in her side of the story, but it’s the money that is so fascinating.  Women are in court everyday begging for child support and praying they can take care of their kids.  She talks like she is like everyone else, but she’s not.

She makes no mention of how lucky she feels that came out with financial freedom.  She needs to own that she is better off than most women.  She doesn’t owe us anything, I just think it would have been awesome to say it. I think she is classy for how she has handled herself. She has been a lady and set a wonderful example for her kids.  She has never publically said anything bad about Tiger, and keeps her kids connected to their dad.

That takes class, so good for her.  Would she have been as gracious if there was not so much money involved?  Divorce is the crushing of a dream, but don’t sweep your piles of money under the rug, because we know you have it.  She says: “I felt stupid as more things were revealed — how could I not have known anything? The word betrayal isn’t strong enough. I felt like my whole world had fallen apart.  I felt embarrassed for having been so deceived. I felt betrayed by many people around me.”

Maybe Tiger was talented enough to hide his lies from her.  I find it hard to believe however, that she did not suspect.  Only the two of them, and possibly Barbara Walters, will ever know.  I think that interview is coming. Elin said:  “I am now going to do my very best to show them that alone and happy is better than being in a relationship where there is no trust.” Tiger responded to the article with “I wish her the best in everything.”

At the end of the day, I feel for Elin and her children.  Having gone through divorce when my son was very young, it’s hard, but children are resilient. Her heart will heal, she will trust again, and her children will bring her joy.  Good for her that she ended the speculation and spoke for herself.  It’s a sign of healing, and really awesome that she watched the parodies of her life on SNL and South Park, and is willing to admit they were “pretty hysterical”. 

I came away liking her.  It’s a shame she was not able to transition into a private life being completely open about the money, but I wish her well.  I predict she will meet someone great, have some more kids, and eventually get her happily ever after.  Her life is blessed and if she can separate the princes from gold-digging frogs, all will be well.  Stay strong Elin, and keep the faith.

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I’m a little confused…why the obsession with the money?  She’s set for life so do we need to know specifics?  She’s been through hell, all in full view of all of us and I don’t care how much she got, it’s not enough. I hope she can find peace and happiness somewhere down the road.

Comment by Kathy on 8/26/10 at 8:19 am

Kathy,
It’s not an obsession with money.  We would not care about this story if he was not the richest golfer in the world, and had she not scored so much cash. Lots of men cheat.  Lots of women are forced to start over alone, after having their lives ripped apart by lies.  Her heartache is like everyone elses, but to think she is just like everyone else, with 100 million dollars in the bank, is ridiculous.  This story is more about the money than anything else.  Let’s get real.

Comment by ILANA ANGEL on 8/26/10 at 9:37 am

ilana,
i saw on the news that the reporter had to mail or e-mail the questions six weeks in advance so elin could go over them herself (most likely her and her lawyers). she then had all her answers typed out for each question before even meeting with the reported. the reporter from people magazine claims to have spent more than fifteen hours with elin and her children at her rented home over a five day period. elin was afraid of a blunt one on one interview because she didn’t trust her ‘english’, which i find smart but yet again very, very sad.
but really—-100 million dollars!!
hell, 100 bucks seems like alot compared to the five/six divorces that have happened on my family tree (my mothers. two sisters, brother-in-laws, nephews and my dads too-he liked it so much he did it twice!). they all were lucky enough to walk away with that pretty paper ‘em divorce words were written on to wipe their own butts with.
i’m just sayin’...
(o.m.g.)
divorce hurts no matter what, where, why, or how come, but the who did what to whom is where the pain starts for all involved.
tiger and elins divorce will be there for their great, great grand children to read about for years and years.
the divorces in my family aren’t news to anyone or worth talking about to anyone excite to family members. and hell, most of ‘em don’t give a hill of beans to care.

Comment by zero milligrams (o.m.g.) on 8/26/10 at 11:09 am

True.  Too bad she’ll probably never really get to have a private life. She’s now a celebrity whether she wants to be or not. I was thinking about how different this is than when Michael Jordan got divorced. Tons of money, but no disgusting scandal to go with it.

Comment by Kathy on 8/26/10 at 11:36 am

Ilana Angel I agree with most of what you say in this article about Elin.  She has been through hell and handled it with dignity, class, and true discretion.  Not only did she refuse to divulge personal details of their private marital problems, but to her ultimate credit she did not say anything negative about her cheating, lying ex-husband.

The only thing I disagree with you about is your comments that Tiger had unprotected sex.  No proof was ever provided by anyone that Tiger Woods had unprotected sex.  Statements made by the sleazy, disgusting women who were well aware they were having sex with married man don’t count as proof or validation.  It’s a fact that Tiger Woods was a lying, cheating, adulterous piece of crap, he acknowledged that himself during his multiple public apologies; what he never said was that he had unprotected sex.  That claim was made by some of the “mistresses” but it was never validated or substantiated.

So the facts are, Elin Nordegren is a dignified classy woman with a strong sense of decency and Tiger Woods lost the best thing he ever had in his life. 

As a footnote, I’d like to comment that in spite of Tiger’s infidelity and adultery, I think it’s good that Tiger publicly placed all of the blame squarely on himself where it belongs, that he defended Elin and repeatedly said in public that she was never violent towards him, and that after the interview was published Tiger said he understood what Elin had to say and he wished her ‘the best in everything’. 

I think that indicates Tiger is very cognizant and aware that he completely ruined his life and destroyed his family ALL BY HIMSELF.  In truth I wish Elin and the children all the best, and I hope for his own sake that Tiger Woods continues with the therapy he’s already started, because he obviously has a serious emotional problem that he needs to get fixed before he gets involved with anyone else.  No other woman should ever have to deal with the level of betrayal that Elin unfortunately had to deal with.

Comment by Karen on 8/26/10 at 1:09 pm

@ Kathy:  So weird you would say that about Jordan.  I was thinking the same thing.  One is sensational and one went quietly into the night.  She is a celebrity whether she wants to be or not.  I don’t care that she was married to Tiger Woods for five minutes and has two kids.  He’s a douchelord and she is good to be rid of him.  She should want us to forget that part.  What I find fascinating, is what does a 30 year old girl do with 100 million dollars?

@ zero:  the entire thing is sad and divorce is horrible but 100 million dollars make it hurt less.  I promise you it does.

@ Karen: Granted it was said by the trashy skanks, but still, if the world is thinking he had unprotected sex with dozens of girls, and his wife then got pregnant, wouldn’t he deny it if it were not true?  All he needed to say was he never put his wife in physical danger.  Proof or not, I believe the skanks.  He does not strike me as someone who is going to practice safe sex.

Comment by Ilana Angel on 8/26/10 at 1:50 pm

I think Elin handled everything just right, including the interview…and I really do not care about the money, it is completely her business…don’t forget, she has had access to lots and lots of money as Mrs. Woods, and I think her family was fairly well off when she was growing up, so I have the feeling money really is not something she is as concerned with as most single mothers..and speaking as a woman whose husband cheated and lied, I can say there is no amount of money that will take away the pain, shame, anger and humiliation that I felt, at least not right away (and I found out a year ago).

Anyway I have nothing but admiration for Elin and Sandra Bullock and Elizabeth Edwards(to name a few) for being brave enough to walk away from a cheating, lying, beloved husband, because I suspect that no matter if you are young or not so young, rich or not, healthy or not, walking into a new life as a single mom is so very difficult….and honestly, if I had to be on a “team”, I am glad to not be on the cheating spouse or “other” woman ( i.e. skank) team…it makes me feel the teeniest bit better that such classy, lovely, and smart smart women have walked in my shoes, and are coming out stronger.

Comment by tracy on 8/26/10 at 3:44 pm

Tracy,

I’m sorry to hear about your situation.  It’s really hard.  My fiance cheated on me weeks before our wedding.  It was the first time I allowed myself to fall in love after my divorce and it was crushing.  Set me way back and rocked me and my self esteem to the core and still does on occassion.  That was four years ago.

I too respect women who are able to walk away from scumbags.  I loved my scumbag and leaving him, even after his betrayal, took thought.  The thing is, I never questioned if he was an idiot, I questioned if I could manage on my own. 

Money is a lot of the reason women stay in bad relationships.  It’s hard to walk away when you have kids to take care of.  All the women you referenced are wealthy and so I think, without taking away from their strength, it is easier to walk away when you have a financial cushion.

I am also happy to be among the ladies and not the skanks.  Thanks for sharing and keep the faith sister!

Comment by Ilana Angel on 8/26/10 at 4:44 pm

I am glad that Elin Nordegren did not allow Tiger and his team to silence her per life, even though it cost her millions from the divorce settlement! Elin is free at last from the despicable Tiger Woods who seems to have very serious issues! Elin Nordegren appears to be a woman true to herself and there is no money that can buy the dignity, self respect, courage and moral principles of a true woman!!! I am very glad that Elin is free at last from Tiger Woods!!!What Tiger Woods did to Elin Nordegren was criminal and coward! He showed no compassion, respect or caring for his wife or children! I believe that Elin has a right to tell her story to the world since she and the children are the only true innocent victims in this horrid ordeal! I commend Elin for her courage and determination to come public! She is truly an inspiration to all the decent women around the world! I know that Elin and her precious children will have a very happy future!!!

Comment by Carmen on 8/26/10 at 5:24 pm

ilana,
i have been trying to read most of your past entries. i have to admit some make me laugh, some make me tear up and yes there are some, that make me wonder how thick of an onion skin do you really have.
then you write a comment, like you have here, that speaks volumes and helps peel back a few layers of your onion. i’m glad you are strong for each layer, though.
i truly wish you peace, love and friendship!!
i’m just sayin’...
(o.m.g.)
on your birthday entry about the 78 year old woman you help out with her bills and such. well, that post or entry softened my heart a little more about you. please, for me—give her a little hug from me. plus i hope you told her not to use the word douchelord again. i would just fall over if i heard my step mother-in-law, who is also in her late 70s, say that about anyone.
you are a true peach, girl, a true peach!!

Comment by zero milligrams (o.m.g.) on 8/26/10 at 7:14 pm

Ilana, I agree with you that while Elin deserves sympathy and no doubt genuinely suffered the shame of the whole world knowing her business, that she somehow “wasn’t enough for Tiger” despite being beautiful and so on (some wondering what was wrong with HER), did she beat him with the golf clubs, is she a jealous maniac, and so on - in the cold hard real world, all that money sure DOES make things a lot easier.  I’ve been through much worse for over 20 years and my husband managed to squander everything we BOTH built up by selfish behavior and I’ve got a masters from two Ivy League universities, wasn’t some au pair from a small foreign town who can’t even speak English, then married a few years.  During which she enjoyed a lavish lifestyle.

She’s young, gorgeous and will no doubt get remarried as a rich celebrity now.  Enjoying the spotlight or not, as she chooses.  Only so many tears I can shed for her.  I think it’s such a curious phenomenon that people like a few of your commenters here are so admiring of women like her and Sandra Bullock, even those women lie in another world from the mom down the street who’s dumped for his secretary and has to struggle and whose hair REALLY falls out from stress.  Why do rich, lucky women seem so much more “real” and deserving of sympathy?  Something to do with how it makes average women feel superior to them, in a way, by being able to shed a tear or their sympathy?

Wanda Sikes had a really funny riff about this on Larry King last night by the way, and said the same things, that this is one rich woman now whose troubles will be eased by all that money.  This isn’t “cold,” it’s reality from the trenches of those who’ve been down and up and know which is better.

I don’t hate Tiger as much as most women, though - he’s a cad and liar but should never have gotten married.  Wanda’s right that if he’d stayed a single swinger like he’d wanted (if not for some manager persuading him to be a family man, no doubt) he’d STILL be on top of his game in every way.  Sought after for marriage and WHEN he was ready, might have made a good husband.

Comment by hedia on 8/26/10 at 7:34 pm

I have to say, this whole discussion has made me so grateful for my 32 year marriage, my less-than-glamorous life, my modest home and five children.  All the money in the world can’t buy what I have. I hope Elin and her kids can find happiness and have some kind of normal life outside the spotlight. But I doubt that will happen for a while.

Comment by Kathy on 8/26/10 at 7:58 pm

@ Hedia:  I thought Wanda was brilliant.  Love your comment.  Thanks for sharing.

@ Kathy:  That is a huge accomplishment.  Congratulations!  I’m looking for a life just like yours, not Elin’s.

Keep the faith everyone.

Comment by Ilana Angel on 8/26/10 at 8:03 pm

@ zero:  wow.  you are digging into the archives.  i’d be hard pressed to remember all of the blogs you comment on.  they are old.  with 6 entires a week, some have slipped through the cracks of my mind.  one of these days i will go back and read them all.  i’m sure they will make me laugh and cry too.

Comment by Ilana Angel on 8/26/10 at 8:12 pm

Yeah, she sure is classy. When I think of classy, I think of allowing People Magazine to follow me around for 4 days. Before that interview, I was all for her. She just needs to go back to being a no one with all her cash. Not bad for a nanny. Classy? Please.

Comment by Jack on 8/27/10 at 2:32 am

yes all the women I referenced are wealthy, high profile women, BUT would anyone here know the circumstances if I wrote about a “woman from down the street?” No….rich, famous women are not more deserving of sympathy, but if I mention my friend Veronica, or Brenda, does anyone here have any idea what I am talking about?  Just because a woman is rich, young and pretty does not mean she feels pain any differently…

And yes, not having to worry about money makes almost EVERYTHING in life easier, from getting an education, to staying healthy, but ultimately the lesson to be learned from the famous women who walked away is that you can get thru something terrible with your head held high and your dignity intact…there have been plenty of high profile women in the past who have stayed with their cheating husbands for lots of different reasons, Hillary Clinton, Jackie Kennedy, Elliot Spitzers wife),and I do not judge them, their reasons are valid…I just think that Elin’s story is about making the people real, that a real person was hurt, not a caricature of a woman, but a real woman who seemingly had a life and lifestyle most would envy…and still she and her children were not safe from being hurt by someone they loved…it happens all the time, every day, but for me, seeing other women walk thru the fire and coming out ok, makes my walk a bit easier…
and then in turn maybe I can make someone elses walk a little easier too.

Comment by tracy on 8/27/10 at 5:11 am

Okay—I absolutely love this term and plan on stealing it, Ilana. 

The term of the year is:  douchelord

Bahahahahahahahahaha~

And totally agree with what you wrote about said douchelord

Comment by Anita Vacation on 8/28/10 at 1:58 pm

Tiger hasn’t stepped out of the limelight, why should Elin? She should stay there till the ‘check’ clears and then go to Sweden for a little R&R.

Comment by Go Elin on 8/31/10 at 8:03 am

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