May 24, 2012
Conversations From Twitter – Part 2
Last week I began my series of interviews with reality TV fans who follow me on Twitter. I spoke with @FavAuntJulie and it was great. She is a wonderful lady, a lover of reality TV, and a southern belle. This week it was my pleasure to speak with @SweeetBea. She is an interesting woman, and not at all what I thought she would be.
Bea was born in Columbia, South America and moved to New Jersey as a small child. She works in office administration and has a reality television addiction. She also has a new boyfriend who is not only aware of her addiction, but accepts it. By accepts it of course I mean like all the men in our lives, thinks she is insane for watching but loves her anyway.
Bea joined Twitter so she would have a place to chat with other reality TV fans. Turns out that Twitter is like rehab for reality TV addicts. The only problem is that we are in a rehab that insists we still use. It was through people on Twitter that she learned about the various reality TV blogs, and how she ultimately found mine and followed me.
I discovered some interesting things about Bea during our chat. One is that she actually meets people in person she has met on Twitter. Who does that? She has been on Twitter since it started and she has developed true friendships with many people she knows from there. Twitter is a crazy place so she is brave.
Bea is adventurous and inherently kind. She met her boyfriend through a hiking group on Facebook so it makes sense that she would also meet people from Twitter. Twitter can be a very mean and dark place and that freaks me out. Truth be told, Bea used to be one of the people that scared me. When I first started tweeting I thought she was a spy!
Bea is friendly with everyone on Twitter, does not get sucked into drama, and is respectful of opinions. She is a fan of Bethenny, and we all know what I think about Ms. Frankel, but she still reads my blogs, comments on occasion, and regardless of our differences of opinion, has followed and supported my work. Bea does not take any of it too seriously.
When I was new to Twitter, my blogs about Bethenny ruffled quite a few feathers, particularly a certain blogger from Chicago who was so offended by my distaste for Ms. Frankel, that she decided to start trouble for me. It resulted in my becoming guarded on Twitter. I could not figure out how everything I wrote got to the dark side.
I blocked a bunch of people who were engaging with the troublemakers, yet there was still trouble. I went through my followers one day and saw that Bea was following me, in addition to the dark side. She was the only one I could find that was following everyone so I came to the only logical conclusion. Bea was a spy for the dark side!
I blocked her of course, and then saw that she continued to read my blog and tweet with other people about it. She did not agree with some of what I wrote, yet never said anything unkind about me. One day I was reading through my timeline and saw that some things were being said about my blog and Bea had subtly come to my defense.
I remember chatting about Twitter with my son at the time. He is not a fan of Twitter and thinks I should not be on there. He does not get how mean people are, particularly to me, but when he started to read through he asked who people were and I explained to him that Bea was a Twitter spy. He thought I was crazy.
My kid told me that Bea seemed great, was defending me to crazy people, and she was not a spy. He then proceeded to tell me that if I actually thought there were spies on Twitter, I had lost my mind and needed to delete my Twitter account. I look back at the conversation now and I laugh so hard my stomach hurts. Twitter is insane.
I told the spy story to Bea and we had a good laugh. In the end Bea is not a spy, although for the record I do believe there are spies on Twitter. Bea is a nice woman who loves her family, loves her friends, works hard, is kind, sweet, and has a serious reality television addiction. She is also very smart in that she is able to enjoy the best parts of Twitter.
She is savvy when it comes to both Twitter and reality TV. She has learned how to distinguish good from crazy and light from dark. You must earn her trust, but when you have it, she is a loyal and devoted friend. I asked Bea to tell me three words to describe herself and she said friendly, adventurous, and open minded. I agree with her self-assessment.
Bea loves reality TV and while the shows are embarrassing, she is not embarrassed to be watching. She started watching reality with The Real Housewives of Orange County. When the show started she watched and thought how great it would be to have the life she saw. After several seasons of crap she wouldn’t want to change places with them.
Talking to Bea was like talking to an old friend that I have known forever. She is charming, laughs easily, and makes you feel comfortable immediately. She loves discussing her favorite shows, and reads quite a few blogs. Her favorite blogger is Real Old Housewife. I blame my not being her favorite on that damn Bethenny Frankel.
Bea has mastered the art of Twitter and I am a little envious of that. She is able to have fun, quickly identify the crazy people, maintain her cool, laugh at the drama, and be in the middle of things while safely watching from the sidelines. She could be a spokeswoman for Twitter because she is one of the few people who get it.
Bea is a sweetheart and I loved talking with her. I am happy my son convinced me she was not a spy, I respect her for respecting the opinions of others and engaging in conversations with class and kindness. I would even meet her in person! I look forward to the next installment of this series because fans are good at keeping it real.