Posted by Mihal Levy
I do not believe that you become a mom just because you have a child. The same way you do not become a grandparent becaue you have grandkids or an aunt or uncle because you have nieces or nephews. One must earn their title.
It’s quite simple; you become a friend when you are worthy of that person’s friendship and time. You become a boyfriend or girlfriend when you have reached that level in the relationship of mutual respect. So, what makes it right to call mom “Mom,” just because she birthed you?
There are all kinds of moms in the world and after becoming one (I can only hope I earned my title, however) I have had the opportunity to meet plenty. I have come across neurotic moms, busy moms, working mom, stay at home moms, holistic moms, religious moms, secular moms, self-absorbed moms, great moms, not so great moms and more. (Of course it is subjective.)
Of all the moms I have met, it is the self-absorbed moms that get to me the most. For me, it is an oxymoron, because once you hava a child, how is that even possible? These moms prove however that it is still possible and have yet to wonder why their children (young or old) are not attached. Of course this is subjective, but isn’t your child the best judge of character?
I can only hope I earned my title…only time will tell and I am sure my son will let me know as well.
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Posted by Mihal Levy
As the wife of a professional musician, the future of the music industry is pretty important, as you can imagine. For creative reasons…and for our family’s livelihood, of course. But, after the Grammy Awards last night, I think we may both have to pick up a couple of day jobs or my husband will have to write songs with lyrics that are profound to a fourteen year old, like:
(“You Belong With Me”, by Taylor Swift):
You’re on the phone with your girlfriend, she’s upset
She’s going off about something that you said
She doesn’t get your humor like I do
I’m in the room, its a typical Tuesday night
I’m listening to the kind of music she doesn’t like
And she’ll never know your story like I do
But she wears short skirts, I wear t-shirts
She’s cheer captain and I’m on the bleachers
Dreaming bout the day when you’ll wake up and find
That what you’re lookin’ for has been here the whole time.
In other words, we are probably doomed.
Just to clarify - congratulations to Taylor Swift on her win (four, actually). From a mom’s perspective, there is nothing wrong with a wholesome pop icon whose lyrics are clean and messages are simple: you don’t have to wear short skirts or be a “team captain,” just be yourself. (Haven’t heard that before.) I guess she can be compared to Debbie Gibson or Tiffany back in my day, the late 80’s. I can see why fourteen year old girls wold be drawn to her type of music: girl power and inspiring messages having to do with teen angst, popularity contests and boys. But what about the rest of us?
What happened to the good old days (I know, I sound like old folk), when popular music could be enjoyed by ages fifteen and above? Are we all fourteen year old girls? And album of the year? Does it really have much to do with the album, or more about who is the most popular singer among teens? But I must be getting old, because I am more interested in the “earlier this evening” awards that are not televised.
So where is the future of the music industry headed? Good question. Ask the CEOs and business moguls. As far as the artists are concerned, I’m not quite sure. For my husband’s sake, I say he focus more on selling out than selling art. After all, isn’t that what pays the bills?