May 22, 2013 | 4:48 pm

Dear Dr.L

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Dear Dr.L,
My name is Yuri. I have a beautiful partner for 5 years now that I am about to marry. I love her very much and we are very excited about our future together. What I am concerned about is my ongoing need to 'check out' other women and to fantasize about certain ladies I come across. My partner is very gentle and demure and so she never confronts me about it ,but I am well aware that she is uncomfortable with it and possibly hurt.
I am also concerned that once we get married, I will have an even mightier need to be unfaithful and pursue other women.
I often cogitate about the source of it, I mean I love her dearly and she is exquisitely beautiful in my eyes, so why do I have this need? Is there something wrong with me? Is there anything I can do to calm and curb this need and thus avoiding any possible future anguish? Please help me.

 

 

Dear Yuri,
First,I would like to thank you for this important question. Many individuals deal with the issue of monogamy on a daily basis, regardless of gender,age or relationship status.
Unfortunately our society bases its norms on social and financial structures that are difficult to battle and almost impossible to alter. Let me ease your mind and conscience by stating that you're absolutely not alone in this dilemma as it has nothing to do with some kind of dysfunction ,or 'emotional disability' you suffer from, but rather the natural human frame and properties. I differ it utterly from the social hypocrisy that might be forced upon us. Before the advent of agriculture, prehistoric humans lived in a much less sexually possessive culture, without the kind of lifelong coupling that currently exists in most countries.These circumstances changed everything about human society, from sexuality to politics ,to economics ,to health ,to diet ,to exercise patterns to work-versus-rest patterns. It introduced the notion of property into sexuality. Property wasn’t a very important consideration when people were living in small, foraging groups where most things were shared, including food, childcare, shelter and defense. It makes perfect sense that sexuality would also be shared — why wouldn’t it be when paternity wasn’t an issue back then?
In general ,modern psychology is practicing an injustice to society and couplehood when yielding solely to the necessity and commonality of monogamy, when so many factors ,even in the human form,indicate otherwise like the design of the penis, to the volume of the testicles, to the sperm-producing potential of the testicular tissue and the way we have sex. It's paramount to stress that I am not advocating or negating any personal opinion and choice of monogamy, polygamy or any other form of lifestyle, to each his own and a unit formed from a man and a woman choosing to live together, can make its own choice.
I am however, advocating the prominence of an open discussion, preferably accompanied by a professional third party. This kind of dialogue will surface things while allowing openness, finding solutions together and avoiding future hardship. You might be surprised by your future wife's approach towards your concerns and no matter how you relate to it, no good will come out of hiding your thoughts and desires ,especially since you HAVE mentioned that your partner is aware of your dilemma.

 

I strongly recommend reading the book 'Sex at Dawn', a fascinating anthropological analysis of human sexuality in different cultures while covering the issue of monogamy as well.
Best of luck!!

 

 

 

Dear Dr.L,
I'm contacting you as a last resort as I am in a relationship that I am just about to be done with and I guess simply need some professional reassurance. I have been dabbling in this relationship for the last six months. Our love life is phenomenal and we are very compatible intellectually as well. The problem emerges from his utter 'refusal' to engage in any form of activity other than the one taking place in the bedroom. We both enjoy each other immensely, however every time I tried engaging in a conversation about his work or his social life,he would change the subject and abort my inquiry with the cliche' 'I love you' that appeases my need to know more for the moment ,until the next time. At this point I'm feeling very lonely and not really in a relationship, even a minor feminine procedure I had to go through was not respected by him,as to his quests of engaging in sexual activity under these circumstances. His explanation is that I should be delighted with his passion towards me and that he always desires me ,but personally I see it as a pathetic, no good excuse ,to his inaccessibility and lack of real love or caring. Please help me!

Julie

 

Dear Julie,
Thank you for your question and for being so detailed and honest. You are definitely an intelligent woman with a highly observant ability. I fully agree with your argument as to the title of 'relationship' being completely too good to be given this, 'connection' if you will. At best I would call it a sexual escapade or a sensual adventure. The extreme circumstances of high libido and stamina on both ends, could have benefitted your relationship greatly, had it been accompanied by a real emotional and spiritual connection. The point you made regarding your 'motivated' partner's inability to allow you a slow healing post op, applies to many possible future concerns. Life brings physical challenges even under good circumstances such as birth, as well as under more difficult ones ,like a physical injury or anything else that might hinder your ability to utterly surrender to the joy of sexuality and love making, then what?
If the entire relationship is based on carnal bliss, one has to wonder as to its properties. It's simply inhuman to assume that we will always be ready and willing to enjoy it; career,children, family, financial hardship, physical pain or in one word- life, might get in the way of it, so if the person you're involved with refuses to accept these limitations or worse case, might turn to 'replacements' ,need I really add anything? You have the answer to your question within you and I commend you for it. To be quite honest, you are not a 'glory hole' if you know what I mean..
Best of luck dear!

 

 

Dr.Limor Blockman,PhD Sex&Relationship Counselor www.DrLimor.com  Doctorlimor@gmail.com

May 16, 2013 | 1:02 pm

Dear Dr. L

Posted by Dr. Limor Blockman

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Dear Dr.Limor,

I'm contacting you in regards to a matter I have been struggling with, ever since my husband of 8 years has brought it up a few months back. My husband suggested that we should take part in an extramarital activity better known as swinging. The 'community' he referred to is a very exclusive and intense one that meets once a month for a weekend of sexual explorations. When he first initiated the discussion about the matter, it was brief and insignificant but ever since,he has become more and more demanding of my response to his request. I personally find my husband very attractive and fail to see the point of an exhibitionistic activity of that sort, and in swapping in general. I consulted a few of my close friends that had versatile opinions;some thought that it could enliven our relationship ,while others saw it as a treacherous step leading solely to destruction, which is pretty much my own opinion. I don't know how to approach him about that or honestly what to say to shift him from this,now almost a fixation. Please help me save my marriage!

Dalia

 

Dear Dalia,

Thanks for your question, I assess that the topic of swinging comes up in close to 40% of married homes, figuratively or verbally alike, either way it comes down to it being a very common and urgent discussion on today's relationship 'menu' so to speak. I'm pleased that you are opinionated and thus examining the matter pre action ,whether it is through consulting acquaintances or a professional. I must emphasize refraining from bringing a personal opinion into our discussion, as this is not the place to present a manifest advocating or negating the choice of this alternative lifestyle,as the topic is too vast to dissect and in any case to each his own. In your specific case ,I must professionally recommend aborting this notion ,as the foundation of it is rocky and might predict an upcoming collapse. Rarely do both parties approach this venture with mutual interest ,exultation and stamina. In your case ,you have already stated that should you take part in this activity it will be solely for your husband's sake, surely any activity that is being pursued for any one else's interest rather than our own, is bound to end in discontent to say the least, especially as we're dealing with a form of action that might jeopardize your entire marriage. In a more abstract way of putting it, 'one might find it extremely difficult to surrender to imposed vegetarianism,healthier choice as it is, after being indulged with sizzling steaks that are just eager to be eaten,whenever the craving arises'..

In conclusion, I strongly recommend avoiding this activity and engaging in an assertive yet supportive dialogue with your husband, preferably with a third professional party, to examine needs and wishes that might be addressed and supported by other notions, much less crucial or hazardous to your relationship! Best of luck!! 

 

 

Dear Dr.L,

I'm a 43 year old man, healthy in general other than my hypotension that I was diagnosed with a few years back. I recently have experienced a difficult divorce ending a 15 year marriage, I'm quite distressed and shocked being 'thrown' back into the dating scene. I went on a few dates that were pleasant enough, however I keep getting nervous over my ability to satisfy a new partner or maintain the sufficient stamina ,as I haven't experienced any relations with anyone other than my spouse for so long and feel pretty anxious. I don't suffer from impotence per se and do wake up 'functional' so to speak ,but I thought I should consult you with your wonderful wisdom examining whether it will be risky or problematic for me to use a Viagra prior to my next date, as I assume it will put me at ease and allow me to function more freely with less anxiety.

By the way I truly like your column and am very thankful for your time!

Jacob

 

Dear Jacob,

First, I would like to personally thank you for your kind words, I highly appreciate your compliments! As to your profoundly important question, I'm very thankful for your boldness bringing up 'recreational use of prescription medication',as it is highly common and mostly hazardous. You are a young man, clearly not battling impotence as you attested to morning erections, more importantly (and HERE is the most important part of your inquiry), you DO suffer from hypotension. Viagra by its property lowers blood pressure by enhancing nitric oxide and thus vasodilating blood vessels.

Being a man that already deals with lower blood pressure, you would be knowingly putting yourself at risk using a vasodilator. I'm very certain that there are many men in your position dealing with new relationships and/ or emerging out of long and familiar relationships,thus exhibiting discomfort and anxiety over new connections, however there is absolutely no need in taking any physical risks when approaching an emotional challenge, the latter can be dealt with via psychoanalytical methods that might provide reassurance, establish self confidence and introduce new ways along the dating scene management. I commend your approach seeking advice. Please refrain from unnecessarily using this medication and embrace a long and healthy life.

Best of luck and happiness!

 

Dr.Limor Blockman,PhD Sex&Relationship Counselor www.DrLimor.com  Doctorlimor@gmail.com

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May 9, 2013 | 1:53 pm

Dear Dr.L

Posted by Dr. Limor Blockman

Dear Dr.L- your real questions answered thoroughly by your devoted Sex & Relationship Counselor Dr.Limor.

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Dear Dr.Limor,
I'm writing you regarding a matter that has been troubling me immensely in the last couple of years. For the record I'll refer to myself as Raphael. I have been happily married to a lovely looking wife, 5 years my junior, I'm now 34. When we first got married we used to engage in sexual relations a few times a week, overall it has always been initiated by me, nonetheless my wife would oblige and I have been content with it. The last two years of our marriage have been exhibiting a very drastic decline in the frequency of our encounters,my wife hardly shows any interest whatsoever, and even when she does finally grant me with some relations, I end up being the only 'active' one,so to speak. I'm very frustrated and helpless as to any actions I might take, please help me.

 

Dear Raphael,
Thank you for your email. I'm saddened that you need to deal with these unfortunate circumstances,however very grateful for your bold and frank approach in seeking assistance and surfacing a very important matter many couples deal with on a daily basis,yet feel uncomfortable to even admit to its existence. Many factors attribute to our sexual function, our libido and stamina,our ability to achieve climax and so forth.In relation to your mentioning of your wife's lack of interest or desire, albeit she would oblige to your quests on most occasions when initiated by you, I'm assuming that she is not 'endowed' with an insatiable sexual interest or libido, or simply hasn't experienced a very profound sexual exultation and thus does not truly appreciate the intensity of a satisfying sexual property. You have mentioned that your wife is 5 years younger, that puts her in her late twenties.I'm mentioning that in relation to the fact the the female sexual peak ranges between the ages of 35-50, so do not discourage, the future looks promising:)

Regardless, I would not recommend waiting patiently for a shift, that WILL eventually come I guarantee it,  but rather taking an immediate action by engaging in an open discussion,as a couple and preferably involving a third objective party( solely professional,please refrain from inviting any 'friendly' advice that might come from questionable well wishers...)that will enable you an honest analysis of causes and solutions to your delicate matter. Your relationship holds the sanctity of marriage and thus should be handled carefully and with the proper care in mind. A good open discussion will provide relief and a new headway in your journey towards healing, whether via relationship counseling, use of herbal aphrodisiacs or any other gratifying method you might explore together.

Best of luck!

 

 

Dear Dr.L,
I'm a 32 year old man, have been engaged in healthy relationships throughout the years and never encountered any sexual difficulty. Recently I have started dating a new partner,I'm very eager to satisfy her and to make our time pleasurable,however during the last several encounters I came across a difficulty reaching my climax while losing my potency along with it. My partner exhibited a major dissatisfaction with it and even though I have repeatedly tried explaining that I'm very attracted to her and have no clue why this is happening, she will not accept it and remains insulted and unhappy about it and about me. I'll also mention that I engage in self pleasuring regularly and do reach an orgasm there. Please help me save this relationship, I would hate to lose it over this kind of matter.

Hal

 

Dear Hal,

Thank you for your question, I'm pleased to read about the positive relationship you are involved in and commend your quest for advice, a very vital approach to life in general.The difficulty you are dealing with derives of a few factors:

First, when we initiate a relationship, especially one that intrigues and enlivens us, we tend to encounter physical challenges, males and females alike. Men tend to suffer from an occasional premature/delayed ejaculation,erectile dysfunction and such, while women mostly deal with an acute vaginismus, vaginal dryness or possible inflammations/ infections. The short history you provided along with the very intelligent mentioning of your frequent,yet climax gratifying autoeroticism, lead me to the assumption of two main reasons for your unconsummated pleasure with your partner:

First, your initial less successful attempts to satisfy your lover,'granted' your physical 'memory' with that difficulty and thus functions as a form of ' self fulfilling prophecy'.

Secondly, your frequent self pleasuring created a platform in which your touch, tempo and manner of arousal that might differ from the ones achieved during coitus, 'push' your body in quest of that 'specific' pleasurable sensation and once it arrives in a slightly different form, your body declines it and chooses to have it 'its way or nothing at all' in a more allegorist notion, if I may.

My recommendations:

• Honest mutual discussion, encompassing the important pinpoints I have mentioned above.
• Examining your autoerotic technique for any aberrations from your lovemaking.
• Minimizing self pleasuring, while enhancing mutual sensual delights and staying aware of each other's sensitivity and possible discomfort.

Best of luck!

 

Dr.Limor Blockman, PhD Sex&Relationship Counselor www.DrLimor.com  Doctorlimor@gmail.com

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April 30, 2013 | 5:28 pm

Dear Dr. L

Posted by Dr. Limor Blockman

Dear Dr.L- your real questions answered thoroughly by your devoted Sex & Relationship Counselor Dr.Limor.
All questioners should be addressed to Doctorlimor@gmail.com

 

 

 

Dear Dr.Limor,

I would like to share a matter that bothers me tremendously lately. Recently I have terminated a relationship of three months with a man that was occupying my entire world. The relationship was very intense, I think you might call it love or infatuation. We both declared it happily to one another and all was going well. About two weeks into the relationship he started investing less and less time in seeing me, claiming he was occupied at work. I have since checked it( for my self ,albeit not a politically correct thing to do, I acknowledge) and indeed he was spending time working rather than with other women ,as I assumed. Regardless, it became very bothersome to always wait for him to clear some time for our relationship, and even when I have experienced physical injury that impaired my mobility for a short while, he wouldn't offer his assistance in anyway. Within a few weeks our encounters became more and more scarce and were overall 'held' in the bedroom. I feel a bit awkward asking a sex therapist regarding these matters as I mentioned that the only haven left unharmed in our relationship was the fabulous lovemaking. I have since separated from him but desperately miss him and inclined to surrender and go back. Please help me do the right thing.
Neve

 

Dear Neve,
Thank you for your inquiry. I would have loved for you to avoid the suffering part of that notion,nonetheless allow me to console you in the fact that the well known cliche'
'Time heals all wounds' is not a cliche at all and actually lives up to one's discomfort each time, without fail. The human mind encompasses the magical ability of 'keeping the good while discarding the bad' so we can proceed safely with the journey of life, that tends to present us with innumerable challenges at times. Albeit a short term relationship,its clear that the emotional impact has been quite intense on you. I would like to praise you for a very bold decision making, ending this unhealthy relationship. Unfortunately during our life course ,we come across men and women that are emotionally unavailable, at times they might  even be utterly oblivious of their 'condition' and so when one tries to carry on a relationship with such an individual, he or she end up carrying the entire weight of it on their shoulders,repeatedly giving and never receiving,or being fed 'crumbs of attention' as I like to call it. A relationship of any sort, romantic or friendly alike, simply can not survive a one sided devotion,it is bound to become unbalanced in no time and thus collapse all together. The man you are describing as your partner appears to be completely unavailable and so even though it seemed like you were having a relationship with him,you actually had one solely with yourself,as his true existence was not there to give and share. You deserve much better, I feel your pain and empathize, if its any consolation,ending the relationship early at least prevent the accumulation of shared experiences ,that could have made it much more difficult to undo later in the relationship. I command you and your strength, get back out there, the good,nourishing relationship you seek is right around the corner!

 

 

 

 

 

Hello Dr.Limor,
I am a 32 year old woman,happy and healthy overall. Recently I have started a relationship with a man around my age and all has been going well. Since I am responsible we have been using contraceptives( mainly condoms) for the past two months,and now during our third month together, we have decided to stop using them after being physically checked and found free of any STDs . Ever since we have started having 'bare' intercourse, I have started acquiring vaginal infections, repeatedly,one goes and another appears, 'sprinkled' with the emergence of the dreadful UTIs. I have been prescribed antibiotics again and again but can't shake the recurrence of these infections ,I started thinking that it might have to do with my current partner. Could he be the source of these recurring infections?? And if so,what would you advise me to do? I feel very uncomfortable bringing it up,especially since we were both tested and found healthy. Please help me.
'Suffering'

Dear 'Suffering',
First,allow me to celebrate your beautiful,supportive relationship that seem to grant you with happiness. Secondly, you evaluation is highly intelligent and most likely pretty accurate. Unfortunately females tend to become a 'vessel' that encompasses infections and physical discomforts in a much more profound, aversive manner than their male counterparts, that said it can definitely be possible that your partner suffers from the existence of the same bacteria in his system, alas only you and your sensitive female system  manifest these painful symptoms that seem to never appear or affect your lover. In regards to STDs, the case might be different as these mostly do have an apparent influence on the male system ,but since you mentioned that wasn't the issue, I'm only using it as a relative to the urgent matter you are dealing with.
My immediate suggestion would definitely be approaching your partner with that matter and accompanying him to his family practitioner ,for some blood and urine samples, possibly even a penile culture exam,so you can have a clearer view of his contribution to your suffering,if any. If his culture comes back positive, he might be prescribed the relevant antibiotics, how simple is that!! Take into consideration that at times these tests might come back negative, what might amount to a very small to irrelevant bacterial existence in your partner, albeit very bothersome to you and your health. I suggest using an over the counter herbal supplement titled 'lactobacillus  acidophilus' that can be purchased at any 'whole foods market'  or pharmacy.
Best of luck!

Dr.Limor Blockman,PhD Sex&Relationship Counselor www.DrLimor.com  Doctorlimor@gmail.com

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April 17, 2013 | 11:35 am

Sharing is Caring

Posted by Dr. Limor Blockman

Dr.Limor’s Cradle of Love

"Desire fulfilled is a tree of life” (Proverbs13; 12)

Couples maintaining a long term relationship, be it marriage or any other format of 'couplehood', quite often lose site of the mere notion of its properties; the importance of the TWO that produce a better, stronger ONE- unit.

Consulting each other, listening to one another's opinions and thoughts, sharing ideas and dreams, could amount to a very stable, profound foundation, providing a strong seed that shall blossom fully ,with our life long celebration of sacred,loving appreciation.

Proverbs 3;13-14 mentions the basic essentiality of wisdom and understanding, in our day to day path: 'Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that obtaineth understanding. For the merchandise of it is better than the merchandise of silver, and the gain thereof than fine gold'

And so, with one's comprehension of what is important and what is dispensable in a long term commitment, one must be reminded that impulsiveness, selfishness or ego related decision making, are extremely hazardous to a loving unit.

God speaks to Abraham in a matter of the heart,in Genesis 21;12: 'And God said unto Abraham: 'Let it not be grievous in thy sight because of the lad, and because of thy bondwoman; in all that Sarah saith unto thee, hearken unto her voice; for in Isaac shall seed be called to thee'!

Utilize these short tips in your relationship and expect a very positive 'heat wave':

• Consult each other: Whether you need a second opinion about the preferable health plan or the next vacation, engaging in a mutual decision making, means that you value your partner's opinion!
• Accept relationship advice only from someone that is genuinely interested in your wellbeing; Avoid assistance from acquaintances that might be influenced, by jealousy or ulterior motives.
• Long term relationships are a boost to our sense of security, but how do we fight the dreadful routine? Try being innovative; anything that will bring excitement, while maintaining each other's esteem and confidence, is a go!
• Don’t argue over monetary matters: yes, you should come to an arrangement of who is paying for what, but once your main discussion evolves around the mighty dollar, you lose your intimacy, trust and comfort. Try creating an understanding around this matter and maintaining it, it's worth a fortune.
• Starting a relationship could be a "walk in the park", maintaining it can get tricky: If you feel like tough times are taking over your relationship, try couples therapy. A subjective opinion from a professional outsider could change and enhance your intimacy.


 

All tips were derived from “365 DAILY TIPS FOR OUTRAGEOUS SEX & INTIMACY” by Dr.Limor Blockman©
Dr.Limor is a renowned Clinical Sex Counselor, Educator, Columnist, Speaker and Author. 
Dr. Limor holds a PhD in Human Sexuality, a Master’s in Public Health & Community Medicine & a Bachelor’s in Psychology & Behavioral Sciences.


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April 6, 2013 | 8:56 pm

Labor of Love

Posted by Dr. Limor Blockman

Dr.Limor’s Cradle of Love

"Desire fulfilled is a tree of life” (Proverbs13; 12)

We are well aware that the road to professional content or financial independence is paved with many challenges and sacrifices. Most of us are absolutely willing to go the extra mile, to achieve our life goals. Nonetheless, somewhere along the way we lost track of the crucial sacred work required to achieve or maintain a good relationship. Our ancestors knew and recognized that requirement very well, thus in pre social media days, when we actually needed to confront our friends or enemies, negotiate the most satisfying outcome and win our coveted 'goods', be it a piece of land or our preferred life partner.  The love story of Jacob and Rachel gives us a glimpse into the most basic practice I relate to as 'Labor of Love':

'And Jacob loved Rachel; and he said: 'I will serve thee seven years for Rachel thy younger daughter'(Genesis 29;18)

Apply the tips below to your casual routine and you might just win a life long limerence and satisfaction;

• Rocky experiences in life aren’t good relationship fertilizers: The simplest thing isn’t getting angry repeatedly, but rather lighten up! Avoid taking every comment or gesture too seriously, and if you can, joke about it!
• Don't be too hard on yourself: similar to her menstrual cycle, men have "off days". Pressure, pain & troubled mind, might result in a less potency or low libido.
• your body is a work of ART: lining her ego with a comparison to a beautiful poem, or a breathtaking painting, could work to your advantage!!
• Not all men are handy: but asking him to help you out with changing a light bulb, or fixing a broken door handle, will spur his masculine traits. It will make you closer, as he will feel strong and capable.
• A good relationship is not easy to maintain: it takes a mutual, constant work and devotion. Things are not created automatically, but if you put your mind and heart in it, it is definitely possible; enjoy the outcome!

 

All tips were derived from “365 DAILY TIPS FOR OUTRAGEOUS SEX & INTIMACY” by Dr.Limor Blockman©
Dr.Limor is a renowned Clinical Sex Counselor, Educator, Columnist, Speaker and Author. 
Dr. Limor holds a PhD in Human Sexuality, a Master’s in Public Health & Community Medicine & a Bachelor’s in Psychology & Behavioral Sciences. 365 Daily Tips For Outrageous Sex & Intimacy/ 365 Daily Tips for Outrageous Sex & Intimacy-Kindle edition


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March 27, 2013 | 11:30 am

Loving kindness

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Dr.Limor’s Cradle of Love


"Desire fulfilled is a tree of life” (Proverbs 13:12)


What entitles the glorious inscription 'act of kindness' in a romantic, couplehood setting?

Caring for one another's well being and healthy mindset is a crucial component in a long term relationship. Working hard to maintain a certain social class or level of prosperity is not enough, a couple must nourish each other's souls and 'Joie De Vivre', failing to attend to it might result in a slow, but consistent deterioration of the very structural core of a relationship.

Proverbs 31 puts kindness in the center of the quote below:

'She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and the law of kindness is on her tongue.
She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Her children rise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her:
Many daughters have done valiantly, but thou excellest them all'(Proverbs 31;26-9)

Utilize these efficient tips for an ongoing maintenance of your valued relationship and infinite love:

• Simple acts of kindness can completely enhance your relationship. Give her a foot massage after a long day, rub her back or bring her fresh coffee, while she's working on the computer. Being kind means, making everyday life, better and more comfortable.
• No pressure: If she's not excited about a certain sexual gesture, wait for a better opportunity, and avoid persuasion. Hey, she might come around with an even better offer!
• Strong people apologize: Made a mistake? Said something hurtful? Telling your loved one that you are sorry, could be a struggle, even when you're wrong. Don't delay, solve it immediately & be sincere.
• Notice beautiful changes in your lover's appearance or behavior? Don't keep it to yourself, speak your mind. Positive feedbacks adheres your love and relationship; keep it fresh!
• Engaging in an important conversation? No one is a mind reader; be coherent and assertive, not intimidating or silent. The key to good intimacy, is communication; don’t forget to have an insatiable "make up sex session" shortly after!

 

All tips were derived from “365 DAILY TIPS FOR OUTRAGEOUS SEX & INTIMACY” by Dr.Limor Blockman©


Dr.Limor is a renowned Clinical Sex Counselor, Educator, Columnist, Speaker and Author. 
Dr. Limor holds a PhD in Human Sexuality, a Master’s in Public Health & Community Medicine & a Bachelor’s in Psychology & Behavioral Sciences.
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March 5, 2013 | 1:27 pm

Passionate Lovers

Posted by Dr. Limor Blockman

Who might be the happiest couple you encounter? Would that be that one indulgent in the most material comforts? Maybe the one fortunately blessed with many offsprings? The truth of the matter, they can all be crowned as a 'happy couple', as long as both parties remember the importance of passion and novelty, in a long term relationship. The 'Song of Songs' kindly emphasizes the true consuming, enchanting quest of love, of passion and the consummation of it.

'Scarce had I passed from them, when I found him whom my soul loveth: I held him, and would not let him go, until I had brought him into my mother's house, and into the chamber of her that conceived me: 'I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelles, and by the hinds of the field, that ye awaken not, nor stir up love, until it please' (Song of Songs 3;4 )

Utilize these tips in favor of a thriving, nourishing relationship that will keep your heart joyous and your 'body of marriage ' gratified!

• Practice different ways of stimulation: varying your touch from gentle to intense. Play with different angles of caressing, change it from up-and-down to circles. Practicing these changes will both indulge your lover and will gratify you with important information regarding her "TURN ONs"… sexy!
• Plan a getaway: even a short leave can refresh and upgrade your love life, not to mention your sexual interest.  The key is to satisfy her needs even if it means gentlemanly compromising yours….
• Don’t keep your hands to yourself: touching & caressing is a wonderful thing! Don’t restrict it to your private, intimate environment but rather fondle and embrace anytime or anywhere. Hold hands while watching your favorite show, caress his nape while his driving, or rub your thigh against his during breakfast. The only way is up!
• Lead the way: Take matters into your hands with the role of a Fierce Diva! Assertive women are ranked very high in the "men's biggest fantasies" scale. Don’t initiate this routine too often; he might get too comfortable & lazy…
• She might seem confident, but chances are she’s somewhat insecure in your presence... even advanced modern women need to know that they’re respected and appreciated. Compliment her constantly, while on your own or in the presence of others, she'll want to keep you forever…

 

All tips were derived from “365 DAILY TIPS FOR OUTRAGEOUS SEX & INTIMACY” by Dr.Limor Blockman©


Dr. Limor is a renowned Clinical Sex Counselor, Educator, Columnist, Speaker and Author. 
Dr. Limor holds a PhD in Human Sexuality, a Master’s in Public Health & Community Medicine & a Bachelor’s in Psychology & Behavioral Sciences.


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