April 8, 2013 | 10:49 am

Matchmaker’s Interview with Orange County Register

Posted by Julia Bendis

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You can read the full interview I had last week with The Orange County Register, along with photos and a happy couple's story of how I introduced them.  They are now on their third year of marriage and a second child on the way.

Read it all here.

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November 8, 2012 | 11:25 am

Matchmaking in Southern California

Posted by Julia Bendis

My new website is up and running for all Singles in the Los Angeles and Orange County area.  If you are single and would like to be placed into my database, or become a client please visit my website: http://www.matchbyjulia.com to get further information.

If you are looking for Love and tired of online dating, give my traditional and personalized matchmaking a try.

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I look forward to helping you find a partner in life!

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July 31, 2012 | 8:03 pm

Matchmaking Woes…

Posted by Julia Bendis

I can’t remember exactly WHEN I started matchmaking, but it seems like I’ve been doing it forever…  In fact, I clearly remember trying to set people up back when I was in high school.  Most kids seemed open to it, however I was always asked the same question, even to this day: “Why?  Why do you keep doing it?”  I can’t explain it, it just makes me happy to see two people come together and form a relationship of some sort.  Whether its a long term relationship that ends in marriage and children, or something short-lived until both parties decide to move on.  Either way, it brings me joy.  I wake up in the middle of the night with an Aha! moment, knowing who I am going to set up the next day. 
As much joy matchmaking brings me, there are some definite upsets that come along with it also…  Maybe its a sign of times, but lately I’ve been having the hardest time with single ladies between the ages of 35 and 45.  It’s not that they are opposed to the idea or mind paying for matchmaking services (believe me my prices are nothing compared to some of the well-known matchmakers… Patti Stanger, etc), but rather very cautious almost too cautious about being set up on a date.  Not only are they hesitant about giving me their real age and history of past relationships, but they also proceed very slowly and with great fear! 

As the world evolved and allowed women to be completely independent from men, sometimes earning higher salaries, having great friends, apartments and a social life - so has the need for having a man in our lives.  It’s sad and wonderful at the same time.  These days the men who come to me for help are a lot more open about it, even when it comes to light “coaching”, appearance and dating advice.  Women on the other hand… not so much.  They seem very set in their ways as they get older, and unless I bring them “The Perfect Guy” don’t mind staying single.  I can’t say that I blame them, after all they do seem to have it all so why bother wasting a night on a potentially wrong date?  But then again, I am not usually wrong when I pair two people up and besides What Do You Have To Lose?  Not much.  And hopefully a lot to gain!  Who doesn’t want someone to come home to, or curl up on the couch with that isn’t covered in drool and animal hair?  Sure your cat or dog can’t talk back, but they also can’t give you an opinion on a pressing matter, give you an orgasm or bring you a hot cup of tea when you are ill… 

If you or someone you know is interested in my matchmaking services - call, email, comment, Tweet me, or any of the above.  I will be more than happy to help you find a partner in life! 

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July 19, 2012 | 3:08 pm

One more reason to love Boy Scouts of America…

Posted by Julia Bendis

I’ve always had an issue with Boy Scouts.  Plain and simple, something rubbed me the wrong way about the whole organization; the children standing in full nerd-gear at grocery stores trying to sell me some crap to raise money for G-d-knows what; the badges they are supposed to “earn” doing good deeds, which reminded me of Jennifer Aniston’s character who worked at TGIFridays with all the ‘flair’ on her uniform; and of course the occasional pedophile who finds his way into the Boy Scouts, and ends up molesting children for years without any repercussions at all.  But there’s no record of that happening according to BSA because they decided to burn all their records right before the government’s investigation.  I am still convinced they are stashed away somewhere.  If I could only find away to break into their homophobic-denial-pedophile-obsessed-building…

As of this week, I can add one more reason why my children will never be boy scouts: BSA’s blatant disregard for homosexuals being excluded from joining their organization.  Or I should say their decision not to change their long-standing rule about homosexual parents, children, volunteers and employees being involved in their organization.  Here is the exact quote from Boy Scouts of America, as seen on their website: “Contrary to media reports, the Boy Scouts of America has no plans to change its membership policy. The introduction of a resolution does not indicate the organization is “reviewing” a policy or signal a change in direction…  In April, a single individual submitted a resolution asking the Boy Scouts to consider amending its policy on not granting membership to open or avowed homosexuals. The resolution asked that the policy be amended to allow local units to determine their own standards…

The BSA policy is: While the BSA does not proactively inquire about the sexual orientation of employees, volunteers, or members, we do not grant membership to individuals who are open or avowed homosexuals or who engage in behavior that would become a distraction to the mission of the BSA.

Scouting believes same-sex attraction should be introduced and discussed outside of its program with parents, caregivers, or spiritual advisers, at the appropriate time and in the right setting. The vast majority of parents we serve value this right and do not sign their children up for Scouting for it to introduce or discuss, in any way, these topics.  The BSA is a voluntary, private organization that sets policies that are best for the organization. The BSA welcomes all who share its beliefs but does not criticize or condemn those who wish to follow a different path.”

‘Open or avowed homosexuals?  Who would engage in behavior that would become a distraction to the mission of the BSA?’  Who writes this unintelligent blabber?  Do they think that every homosexual person automatically wants to convert the heterosexuals to their side?  Who can be this ignorant?  Boy Scouts of America, that’s who.  Don’t they know that their outfits themselves are beyond gay, and were designed by a closeted homosexual?  How much more proof do parents need that this so-called ‘organization’ is nothing more than a glorified child-rapists ring of pedophiles that needs to be put away for a long time…  And even bigger question is why would any homosexual parent or child WANT to be any part of this group?

In conclusion, I strongly believe that BSA needs a bit of a lesson and some messing with.  Stay tuned…

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March 29, 2012 | 10:39 am

Baseball and G-d

Posted by Julia Bendis

I trust in G-d
I love my Country
And will respect its laws
I will play fair
And strive to win
But win or lose I will always do my best

This is the pledge the players chant before every Little League game, including my twelve-year-old son.  Not only do I cringe every single time I hear the use of “G-d” in any child’s activity, but it’s even more alarming when it is mandated and used at a children’s baseball game.  I realize that a prayer of some sort was invented and widely perused far before Tim Tebow could wipe his own tuchis, however what does G-d have to do with baseball, or sports in general?

This country is so obsessed with the power of a higher being, one might even say a power of a supernatural (but one would be called insane for using that word), that it’s not only acceptable to use G-d’s name in just about anything in life, but praise G-d for absolutely everything!  What does G-d have to do with sports, and better yet what is G-d doing in a Little League’s pledge?  Basically, what we are teaching our children is that as long as they pray to G-d before each of their games, a supernatural being way up high in the sky will look after you and make sure you win your games!  What a way to instil false hope into a bunch of teenage boys…  Forget teenage boys, they are chanting this so-called pledge at the five-year-old’s games!

All I can think about while the players are reciting this pledge is what about Atheists on the team?  What about if your family simple does not believe in G-d, or anything that comes with it?  What about those same players going home after a game and asking their parents why in the world we have to say that we “trust in G-d”, when in fact we DON’T trust in G-d, but only in ourselves?  Isn’t G-d a bit too preoccupied with more important issues of the world to be worried about some Little League’s baseball game?  From day one, we teach our children to believe in themselves and in their abilities as decent human beings, and to trust their gut when it comes to anything and everything in life.  And then we make them PRAY before school starts and their sports games?  Isn’t it enough that G-d’s name is already in every school as it is.

Parents, am I the only one that’s outraged over this?  Please, send me your feedback!

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February 29, 2012 | 11:11 pm

Proper etiquette for social media!

Posted by Julia Bendis

Prior to Twitter, and Mark Zuckerberg’s brilliant invention of Facebook (hopefully you can feel the sarcasm), or even texting on our phones, people used to have manners.  Not only manners, but some form of global etiquette when it came to dealing with others.  I truly believe that with each of the above mentioned inventions, we have become dumber, lazier, and completely ill-mannered when it comes to normal human behavior.

Gone are the days when people used to call each other to find out how the other is doing, but rather text, Tweet or my personal favorite… Facebook message posted directly to the person’s wall; so not only can that individual read it but so can everyone else learn that he/she is recovering from explosive diarrhea.  And not only that, but now the universal “Hello, how are you?” has completely vanished from the conversation!  We get right to the point: “You got the kids?”, “What’s for dinner?”, “Get milk!”  No hello’s, good-bye’s, nothing.  Just straight down to business.  It’s taking me a very long time to get used to this new way of communicating, and as one friend put it… “stop treating every text message as a letter, and get to the point.”  Its taking a long while for me, and until then everyone will continue to receive my every text, Tweet, or Facebook post that starts off as a formal letter to the Queen.

The other thing that people seem to unable to learn is that unless you like having enemies, you need to stop posting things like: “I can’t wait for my party later, cooking up some yummy stuff!”, and “Can’t wait to share my new drink recipe with everyone tonight! This will be the best party ever!”  Like, Oh My God we get it, you have five hundred friends and you are throwing the “best party ever” without actually inviting people from your Facebook; however unless you are ready to greet ALL of those five hundred friends at your door in a couple of hours, I’d refrain from posting crap like that.  Do people actually enjoy getting comments such as: “Hey, where is my invite?”  and ‘Why wasn’t I invited?”  Do you feel like shit yet?  How about now?  I feel you are getting there very slowly.  Where are people’s manners…  Or is it all just so they have something to boast and brag about; showcase their mad skills of throwing a party…

How about those idiots that call in sick at work, hacking up God-knows what into the phone all the while posting a picture of themselves on a surfboard to Twitter/Facebook?  Did you forget that your boss is one of your so-called-’friends’ on Facebook?  I guess so.  My list can go on and on.  People, please learn proper social media etiquette already.  Thank you.  Sincerely, Me.

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February 22, 2012 | 10:00 pm

From the mouths of the babes…

Posted by Julia Bendis

Somehow I’ve known all along that kids don’t stay kids for long (I know I’m a genius), but I didn’t expect to get ‘educated’ about various sexual subjects by a twelve-year-old boy.  More importantly… my twelve-year-old boy.  When this school year started, so did the questions, comments and many many talks about girls.  And recently he started to offer his version of what sex is, how and why it’s done.

Don’t get me wrong, I am very happy that he is talking about it at all and especially with me, however he seems to be not only extremely opinionated but also very confident in his understanding of sexual activities…  Today he announced that he understands why boys are always supposed to do nice things for girls, but you never see girls doing anything nice for the boys.  When I asked why that is he whispered: “Girls do nice things for the boys in the bedroom, Mom!”

Not only did I throw up in my mouth a little upon hearing this, I also decided that as much as I wanted to know where, how and who told him that, I probably should end the conversation instead…  Unfortunately for me, my son was not about to let it go as he continued to inform me that he is about to be a man (with his impending Bar Mitzvah coming up), and therefore has the right to talk about sex!  God help me.  So, I went ahead against my better judgement and asked where he heard that, to which he immediately replied: “My friend Michael!  He knows everything Mom”.

Oh well, when you got a friend like Michael… who needs proper sex education?

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February 2, 2012 | 4:25 pm

S**T Gentiles say to Jews…

Posted by Julia Bendis

After one of my hissy fits over yet another moronic comment by a non-Jew, I decided it was time to sit down and write out ALL of the idiotic things I’ve heard over the years.  So, strap on your seat-belts, lean back, relax and enjoy:

• I hope you don’t take this personally, but if I ever need a blood transfusion I won’t be able to accept yours since you have Jewish blood, and I don’t want that.


• I know you are Jewish and all that, but you still celebrate Jesus’ Birthday, right?  After all, he was Jewish.  Did you know that?


• Do all Jews have a lot of money?


• You must know a cheap nail salon being Jewish and all! (nail, hair, you name it).


• Are you only allowed to date Jewish men?


• I know you are Jewish and all that, but you still celebrate Easter, right?  After all, it was YOUR people that killed him.


• Oh I know a lot about Jewish people, the Old Testament really isn’t that different from the Bible.


• You are Jewish? How cute! My step-Father’s Uncle was Jewish. But then he became a Christian.


• You are Jewish? Oh well, that’s OK. My neighbor is Jewish, he is a lawyer. His name has something like Stein or Wein or Berg in it. Do you know him?


• I just love how you people are so good with money!


• I’m so sorry that you won’t be going to Heaven. But its not too late, you can still be saved if you just accept Jesus Christ as your Savior! (I don’t even know what that means).


• I know you are Jewish and all that, but do you want to come to Church with me? They won’t get mad that I brought a Jew, I promise. Christians are very accepting people, they don’t judge (yeah right).


• When I said Jewish people are cheap, I meant it in a good way.  You people are very good with money!


• Do all Jewish people have to learn to speak Hebrew?


• Why don’t Jewish people recruit, like the Christians? I’ve never seen a Jew asking a non-Jew to come to Temple with him, why is that? (because we don’t want or need you)


• Do all Jewish men make great husbands?  You know because they are so good with money, and you never have to worry about it…


• Your Father must be rich!


• You must know of great deals for everything!

I would love to hear some of yours, so I can add it to the list.

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