July 31, 2012 | 8:03 pm

Matchmaking Woes…

Posted by Julia Bendis

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I can’t remember exactly WHEN I started matchmaking, but it seems like I’ve been doing it forever…  In fact, I clearly remember trying to set people up back when I was in high school.  Most kids seemed open to it, however I was always asked the same question, even to this day: “Why?  Why do you keep doing it?”  I can’t explain it, it just makes me happy to see two people come together and form a relationship of some sort.  Whether its a long term relationship that ends in marriage and children, or something short-lived until both parties decide to move on.  Either way, it brings me joy.  I wake up in the middle of the night with an Aha! moment, knowing who I am going to set up the next day. 
As much joy matchmaking brings me, there are some definite upsets that come along with it also…  Maybe its a sign of times, but lately I’ve been having the hardest time with single ladies between the ages of 35 and 45.  It’s not that they are opposed to the idea or mind paying for matchmaking services (believe me my prices are nothing compared to some of the well-known matchmakers… Patti Stanger, etc), but rather very cautious almost too cautious about being set up on a date.  Not only are they hesitant about giving me their real age and history of past relationships, but they also proceed very slowly and with great fear! 

As the world evolved and allowed women to be completely independent from men, sometimes earning higher salaries, having great friends, apartments and a social life - so has the need for having a man in our lives.  It’s sad and wonderful at the same time.  These days the men who come to me for help are a lot more open about it, even when it comes to light “coaching”, appearance and dating advice.  Women on the other hand… not so much.  They seem very set in their ways as they get older, and unless I bring them “The Perfect Guy” don’t mind staying single.  I can’t say that I blame them, after all they do seem to have it all so why bother wasting a night on a potentially wrong date?  But then again, I am not usually wrong when I pair two people up and besides What Do You Have To Lose?  Not much.  And hopefully a lot to gain!  Who doesn’t want someone to come home to, or curl up on the couch with that isn’t covered in drool and animal hair?  Sure your cat or dog can’t talk back, but they also can’t give you an opinion on a pressing matter, give you an orgasm or bring you a hot cup of tea when you are ill… 

If you or someone you know is interested in my matchmaking services - call, email, comment, Tweet me, or any of the above.  I will be more than happy to help you find a partner in life! 

July 19, 2012 | 3:08 pm

One more reason to love Boy Scouts of America…

Posted by Julia Bendis

I’ve always had an issue with Boy Scouts.  Plain and simple, something rubbed me the wrong way about the whole organization; the children standing in full nerd-gear at grocery stores trying to sell me some crap to raise money for G-d-knows what; the badges they are supposed to “earn” doing good deeds, which reminded me of Jennifer Aniston’s character who worked at TGIFridays with all the ‘flair’ on her uniform; and of course the occasional pedophile who finds his way into the Boy Scouts, and ends up molesting children for years without any repercussions at all.  But there’s no record of that happening according to BSA because they decided to burn all their records right before the government’s investigation.  I am still convinced they are stashed away somewhere.  If I could only find away to break into their homophobic-denial-pedophile-obsessed-building…

As of this week, I can add one more reason why my children will never be boy scouts: BSA’s blatant disregard for homosexuals being excluded from joining their organization.  Or I should say their decision not to change their long-standing rule about homosexual parents, children, volunteers and employees being involved in their organization.  Here is the exact quote from Boy Scouts of America, as seen on their website: “Contrary to media reports, the Boy Scouts of America has no plans to change its membership policy. The introduction of a resolution does not indicate the organization is “reviewing” a policy or signal a change in direction…  In April, a single individual submitted a resolution asking the Boy Scouts to consider amending its policy on not granting membership to open or avowed homosexuals. The resolution asked that the policy be amended to allow local units to determine their own standards…

The BSA policy is: While the BSA does not proactively inquire about the sexual orientation of employees, volunteers, or members, we do not grant membership to individuals who are open or avowed homosexuals or who engage in behavior that would become a distraction to the mission of the BSA.

Scouting believes same-sex attraction should be introduced and discussed outside of its program with parents, caregivers, or spiritual advisers, at the appropriate time and in the right setting. The vast majority of parents we serve value this right and do not sign their children up for Scouting for it to introduce or discuss, in any way, these topics.  The BSA is a voluntary, private organization that sets policies that are best for the organization. The BSA welcomes all who share its beliefs but does not criticize or condemn those who wish to follow a different path.”

‘Open or avowed homosexuals?  Who would engage in behavior that would become a distraction to the mission of the BSA?’  Who writes this unintelligent blabber?  Do they think that every homosexual person automatically wants to convert the heterosexuals to their side?  Who can be this ignorant?  Boy Scouts of America, that’s who.  Don’t they know that their outfits themselves are beyond gay, and were designed by a closeted homosexual?  How much more proof do parents need that this so-called ‘organization’ is nothing more than a glorified child-rapists ring of pedophiles that needs to be put away for a long time…  And even bigger question is why would any homosexual parent or child WANT to be any part of this group?

In conclusion, I strongly believe that BSA needs a bit of a lesson and some messing with.  Stay tuned…

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