September 1, 2009
Well my friends it’s been an interesting couple of days on JDate. What stops me from pulling my hair out is the lovely notes I’ve gotten from ladies telling me to stick with it because it works. I heard from one friend who knows a woman who got engaged this past weekend with a man she met there and another friend who I did not even know was on JDate for 8 years before she met the man of her dreams and is now happily married. So it can work. It does work. It will work again for thousands of people so I’m going to assume it can for me.
The purpose of these articles is to share my journey with you so buckle up kids because I’m honestly not sure where to even begin. We could talk about the man who wrote to let me know that he is a devout Christian, has Jesus in his heart and is on JDate because Jewish woman are beautiful and he thinks a life can be shared between a man, a woman and Jesus, regardless of what her religion is. I don’t really understand what he is talking about but bless him for putting himself out there and thinking outside the box.
Perhaps we want to talk about the 45 year old man from Argentina who is on holiday in Florida and has decided he wants to remain there so he is looking for a wife with the hopes of being able to stay in America. He is also not Jewish but is open to converting and wants to be clear that he wants a real marriage. He thinks if someone is willing to take a chance on him, he can make them happy and is dedicated to doing so.
We could discuss the woman who wrote me to see how JDate is working out for me and let me know that should I not find what I think I am looking for, she would be interested in visiting the option of a same sex relationship with me. She thinks I’m really pretty and I should stay open to it because it took her a while to realize that the reason she could not find the right man, was because she should have been looking for a woman.
My personal favorite was the man who was concerned that my profile picture, which is of my head only, means that clearly I am hiding something and he thinks it’s unfair that I posted a picture that appears to be someone very attractive which he is convinced is attached to a 300 pound body. I’m going to assume that particular gentleman has been searching for a very long time.
There is of course some good that came out of my joining again. After my contractual obligation of 30 days it would appear that I will have about 3 years worth of things to blog about. I also have a date on Friday night with a man who was very funny and charming on the phone. He really did seem lovely and made me agree to call him Mr. X in my blog if I decide to talk about our date. IF I decide? Like not not writing is an option? How cute is he?
As long as I keep my sense of humor, have no expectations, approach it all with an open mind and try to not be jaded or cynical, I will be fine. I commend all the ladies who are out there trying and willing to sort through the frogs in order to find a prince. I commend the men too as putting yourself on the line is hard for everyone. I’m right there with you. Be kind to all who reach out to you, don’t get discouraged, let me know if you need a pep talk and remember, above all else, to keep the faith.