Jewish Journal


August 16, 2009

Embracing the unexpected



I have a certain “type” of man that I tend to be attracted to.  He is first and foremost Jewish.  In terms of the physical, he is tall and bald with light eyes.  He is funny, understands sarcasm and has a brilliant sense of humor and silliness.  He has a love of children and Judaism and he thinks I am the greatest thing since sliced bread.  I like a man with an edge.  Not necessarily a bad boy, but a man with a history and a life.  I love a man who has the ability to share his stories with others, both the good parts and the bad.  My type is kind and aware and while he is not religious, he is spiritual and in tune with a higher power.

What’s so interesting to me is that as single people we all seem to have very clear types, yet we are still single so perhaps the trick is to not buy into what we think our types are, but rather look for something else.  We must try to erase our ideas of what our type is from our minds, so that by changing things up a bit, we will perhaps stumble upon someone unexpected.

I want to meet a man who will make it clear how he feels about me without my having to fish.  He will think I’m funny and not be intimidated by my sarcasm and strong personality.  He will allow me to be vulnerable and share my own stories and history without fear.  He will be wise and evolved enough to not judge.  He will think I am beautiful just as I am.  He will hold my hand, stroke my hair, laugh with me, and not think I’m crazy for being so in love with my cat.  When I stumble and make a mistake or do something that hurts or offends him, he will forgive me and not hold a grudge.  We will live and laugh and learn and grow.  When we fall we will quickly get back up be stronger.  He will be focused on building a future not reliving a past.  This is the type of man I hope to meet.

Well I had my second date with “Richard” last night and I am happy to report that he is proving to be someone unexpected.  Our time together is comfortable and easy and has an organic flow. Of course it could all be a mirage and by date three I might want out pull my own hair out to make it end quicker.  One never really knows and I must trust both myself and him.  I believe that God will guide me.  I believe that good things come to those who wait.  I am also learning that if you are able to remain hopeful, sometimes even better things will come to those who are able to be patient and regardless of how long the wait is, manage to keep the faith.

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