"Connecting to God, Ancient Kabbalah and Modern Psychology" by Rabbi Abner Weiss (Bell Tower Books, $24).
It was Rabbi Abner Weiss, in psychologist mode, who "Jerry" went to see after his wife, "Sandy," found him in bed with another woman. Although Jerry and Sandy seemed like the perfect couple, they lacked intimacy, and Jerry had developed a nasty habit of risky promiscuity. Sandy wanted a divorce.
"Jerry suffered from grossly distorted chesed/gevurah [lovingkindness/power] balance.... Like his gevurah, his chesed had also been transformed by the ... kelipot of the nefesh [evil shards of the animal soul]."
Although it is an atypical psychological assessment, Weiss insists that it is a curative one.
Since the early 1990s, Weiss, former rabbi at Beth Jacob Congregation and current rabbi at the Westwood Village Synagogue, has been using kabbalistic tools in his psychology practice. Recently, he published "Connecting to God, Ancient Kabbalah and Modern Psychology," a book that asserts the congruity of the two disciplines.
"The American Psychological Association started publishing serious books on the spiritual experience in the early 1990s, and part of this trend was to look at the mystical experience that psychologists called 'transpersonal,'" Weiss said. "But all the new transpersonal psychologists used Buddhist or Hindu systems. I began to wonder why nobody had looked at Kabbalah. In Kabbalah, I found this full-fledged, psychological system, fully developed, but buried in Aramaic texts."
Weiss found that by using the 10 Kabbalistic Sefirot (divine filters/vessels for divine energy) as behavioral tools, he was able to help many patients have breakthroughs, and find their way out of paralyzing and dysfunctional behaviors.
These sefirot are arranged in four groups in what is known as the etz ha chayim (tree of life), and they form a paradigm that encompasses not only the divine but human behavior and experience. Above all, there is keter (crown), which is the repository of Divine will, and below all, as a foundation, there is malchut, sovereignty or the Divine presence. Then comes chochmah (wisdom), binah (understanding) and data (knowledge) -- the cognitive component of sefirot. The next three -- chesed, gevurah, and tiferet (splendor), are the emotive sefirot. Netzach (victory), hod (empathy) and yesod (foundation) are the interpersonal sefirot.
In his professional practice, Weiss "started with the thesis that you are born with your energy system in balance, but your influences growing up throw them out of balance," he said. "I would use kabbalistic meditations, self forgiveness and forgiveness of others [to help people] become unstuck. It is only when you become unblocked, and when you can let go and reclaim your authenticity, that you can begin to grow personally and spiritually."
In "Connecting to God," Weiss delineates his interest in Kabbalah, explaining its evolution, and some central tenets of kabbalistic belief, such as the makeup of the soul, and how Kabbalah understands God as "being." In his exegesis, he does not name or credit the Kabbalah Centre on Robertson Boulevard in Los Angeles, but he does give de-facto kudos to those who have helped to popularize Kabbalah.
In his elucidation of the sefirot, he explains how different energy imbalances can produce destructive behavioral patterns. As exemplars, he uses real-life examples of the patients he has treated and their [kabbalistic] diagnoses and corrective therapies. He also clarifies how, once a person's issues are resolved, Judaism and its mitzvot can be a tool for spiritual growth. The book is peppered with lengthy guided meditations. And for added assistance, an accompanying CD is available.
In several ways, the book is a personal one. Not only does Weiss give an account of the development of his interest in the subject, he also explains how these Kabbalistic tools helped him through a personal crisis -- the discovery of long-buried family secrets about his father's chicanery.
"As a prominent spiritual leader ... was terrified of being unmasked as an insecure, self-doubting individual, from a less than perfect family," he writes.
In his own therapy, Weiss wrote a letter to his father, detailing his terrible failures as a parent. Since he did not know where his father was buried (he had disappeared before Weiss was born), Weiss read the letter to a picture he had of his father.
"The experience was cathartic. I wept as I read," he writes. Weiss also "reparented his inner child," by cuddling a pillow that he imagined was himself as a little boy.
"My tears began to flow as I acknowledged the boy's pain, loneliness, and fears, and reassured him that I loved him," he writes.
"It's the idea of the wounded healer," Weiss said. "I use my own recovery as a model for other people's recovery."
While the book is an exposition of ancient Jewish concepts, Weiss is careful to use current scientific literature and studies to bolster what he presents. The book does not shy from controversial ideas. In several places, Weiss promotes past-life regressions -- that is, going under hypnosis to discover who you were in a previous life, as a tool for self-understanding.
On Oct. 9, at 5:45 p.m., Rabbi Abner Weiss will be speaking at the Academy for Jewish Religion/California, 11827 Venice Blvd., Los Angeles. For more information, call (310) 398-0820.