April 17, 2003
Healing the ‘wounds’
When rabbi and author Jan Goldstein was suddenly faced with the news that his 12-year marriage was ending -- leaving him with primary custody of his three children -- he felt his life was ruined, until he learned to make sense of his pain.
In his new book, "Sacred Wounds: Succeeding Because of Life's Pain" (Regan Books, $24.95) Goldstein recounts his personal journey of self-actualization and offers a nine-step process toward transforming pain into empowerment.
"The pain is not going away. But it's going to serve a purpose in our lives if we let it," said Goldstein, an award-winning poet, playwright and screenwriter, who is now happily remarried.
In addition to being instructional, each chapter includes a story about someone who has taken one of Goldstein's nine steps. In "Step One: Acknowledging the Wound," Goldstein tells the story of Debrah Constance, a woman who overcame the obstacles of her three failed marriages, alcoholism, cancer and a near-death car accident, and used her own experiences to establish A Place Called Home, a safe house that today provides a nurturing environment to several hundred 9- to 20-year-olds in South Central Los Angeles. In the book, Constance says, "Coming to terms with my wounds has meant acknowledging and believing in myself. It has also meant learning to believe in others."
Goldstein said that while the book is always relevant, it is especially applicable in today's time of war.
"The images and losses have an impact on all of us ... and what they ought to be doing is reminding us what's really important," he said.
Jan Goldstein will discuss and sign "Sacred Wounds: Succeeding Because of Life's Pain" on Tuesday, April 22 at 8 p.m. at Barnes & Noble, 111 W. Colorado Blvd., Pasadena. (626) 585-0362.