Jewish Journal

We Cannot Always Be In Charge

by Beit T'shuvah

October 30, 2013 | 11:26 am

By Joan Praver—Beit T’Shuvah Board/Volunteer

By the time I reached my current age, I had more than enough clues to tell me that we do not control our own mortality. We will all expire eventually, yet suddenly I’m aware that almost every week lately, someone calls on the phone or whispers in my ear that an acquaintance is facing the possibility of a terminal illness and is advised to consult with an oncologist.

Where did we ever get the promise that we could have wonderful lives well into our 80s, 90s, or even survive to be 100? Haven’t we all exercised sufficiently, changed our diets, gotten more sleep, stopped smoking, visited our internists on a regular basis and seen our dentists twice a year? We are all the victims of our inherited genes and cannot rely on stem cell therapy, because that is still not a part of the practice of medicine.

We must all accept that life is a mystery we cannot predict or control. It is a fact to accept and to which we must all adjust. Live well while you can, stop complaining over trivial matters. Be sure to extend your love and kindness to every person you treasure and add a little joy wherever you can, in your own inimitable way.

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