Jewish Journal

Lori Gottlieb

  • D-A-T-E is just a four-letter word

    January 18, 2007 | 7:00 pm

    I'm not sure why this never made any of the 2006 year-end lists, but it seems that -- at least for singles -- the most confusing question of the year wasn't "How do you pronounce 'al-Zarqawi?'" but the more mundane "How was your date?" To be specific, the confusing part would always...
  • First Person - Snips and Snapshots

    May 11, 2006 | 8:00 pm

    To snip or not to snip ... that wasn't the question. When my obstetrician asked me during my pregnancy what I planned to do about my son's circumcision, he wasn't referring to the health controversy that now seems as dated as whether to go Atkins or South Beach. Instead, he wanted to...

  • Sense and Sensitivity

    October 13, 2005 | 8:00 pm

    If you spend much time looking at online dating profiles -- and admit it, you do -- you'll notice that the No. 1 characteristic men seem to be seeking in a potential match is "attractive." We women (attractive or not) are overwhelmingly in search of "sensitive." For us, Mr. Right is...

  • Once Upon a Heeb

    June 30, 2005 | 8:00 pm

    I couldn't see much when I walked into the cavernous bar at Three of Clubs in Hollywood last week, but after my eyes adjusted,

    I noticed the crowd in the adjoining room.

    A couple hundred literary-artsy-hipster types were schmoozing before the L.A. premiere of the Heeb Storytelling...

  • Once Upon a Heeb

    June 30, 2005 | 8:00 pm

    I couldn't see much when I walked into the cavernous bar at Three of Clubs in Hollywood last week, but after my eyes adjusted,

    I noticed the crowd in the adjoining room.

    A couple hundred literary-artsy-hipster types were schmoozing before the L.A. premiere of the Heeb Storytelling...

  • Mama Said…

    June 9, 2005 | 8:00 pm

    Taking relationship advice from your Jewish mother is like heeding a shiksa friend's advice about curly hair gel. It's not their area.

    Besides, your mom has an agenda: to get you married. Sure, she wants you to be happy. But in her mind, the two may or may not coincide. Consider the...

  • The Court of Cupid

    February 10, 2005 | 7:00 pm


    It seems a bit disingenuous for women to get all bent out of shape over Harvard President Larry Summers' recent suggestion that innate gender differences may account for variances in math and science skills. After all, most women maintain that innate gender differences exist when...

  • Political Bedfellows

    October 28, 2004 | 8:00 pm

    My friend Dan recently complained about his move from Washington, D.C. to Manhattan. He wasn't annoyed by the tiny apartments or smelly subways. Instead, he said that when he switched his JDate location to New York, all the women he corresponded with were voting for Bush.

    "My mom's...

  • Guilty of Being Too Guilty

    September 23, 2004 | 8:00 pm

    Yom Kippur reminds me of the time I spent in couples counseling with a serious boyfriend. My boyfriend believed he could be cruel or invasive or dishonest, but as long as he copped to his "sins" once a week, he'd be absolved (especially if he used bogus touchy-feely phrases like "I'm...

  • Wandering BackInto the Fold

    September 9, 2004 | 8:00 pm

    "Shanda: The Making and Breaking of a Self-Loathing Jew" by Neal Karlen (Touchstone, $23).

    Like Bob Dylan a decade before him, writer Neal Karlen turned up on Rabbi Manis Friedman's doorstep in St. Paul, Minn., in desperate search of his soul. It was three years ago that Karlen...

  • SWF Seeks Same

    August 5, 2004 | 8:00 pm

    Late one night, I was giving my friend Ethan a detailed play-by-play of my date when he made a frightening observation: "You don't have many close female friends in town anymore, do you?"

    Ethan was right. Most of my college friends returned East, my medical school pals stayed...

  • Competitive Coupling

    June 10, 2004 | 8:00 pm

    When I was offered a job to write on "Significant Others," a new sitcom about marriage, I'm not sure who laughed harder -- my mother or I? As a single woman with accounts on three online dating services, what did I know about marriage?

    Even my agent admitted that I got the gig...

  • Vanity Body Plates

    March 25, 2004 | 7:00 pm

    A few weeks ago, I was shopping at the Beverly Center when a girl who was maybe 12 years old held up a garment and yelled across the store, "Hey, Mom, what about this?"

    "This" was a skimpy red T-shirt with the words "porn star" emblazoned across the chest. I was shocked by the...

  • V-Day Gestures

    February 12, 2004 | 7:00 pm

    It's hard enough being single, but listening to those Valentine's Day gift-buying countdowns feels a lot like being Jewish and unable to participate in Christmas. So what if there are just five shopping days left before Feb. 14? It's like St. Valentine took over St. Nick's body, and...

  • Full Disclosure

    November 6, 2003 | 7:00 pm

    Okay, full disclosure about ... full disclosure: I write emotionally revealing memoirs, but won't wear see-through blouses. Which is to say, I'm not the type of person who posts naked pictures of herself on the Web. But when a women's magazine asked me to write about joining an...

  • Prozac Jewess

    February 20, 2003 | 7:00 pm

    When my therapist suggested that I consider taking antidepressants, I panicked.

    "But what about my dating life?" I shot back. Never mind that I rarely shower before dinnertime (which, come to think of it, might also be affecting my dating life). For the past several months, I've...

  • ‘Inside the Cult of Kibu’

    August 22, 2002 | 8:00 pm

    On my first day as editor-in-chief of a heavily financed Bay Area Internet startup whose mission -- its mostly female staff of trendy 20-somethings recited like a mantra -- was to "empower" young women, I realized I had a big problem.

    My hair was all wrong.

    It wasn't that my...

  • ‘Literati MeetsGlitterati’

    August 15, 2002 | 8:00 pm

    "Will Kevin be there?" my friend Jodi asked when I invited her to my upcoming book party at Dutton's.

    Oh, no, I thought. Not again.

    It used to be that literary launch parties were about books, not boys. They were a chance for like-minded lit lovers to commune amid dusty bookshelves,...

  • Faith in Unique Places

    April 11, 2002 | 8:00 pm

    When it comes to faith, Niles Goldstein seems to have it in spades -- at least the faith in his own survival. After all, when the 36-year-old rabbi went on a quest to find God, he didn't play musical synagogues or do a Beatles-style sit-in with the Maharishi. Instead, he set out on a...

  • Will the Real Jew Please Stand Up?

    April 4, 2002 | 7:00 pm

    I thought I could tell the difference between Jews and gentiles, and not just by using Lenny Bruce's criteria: chocolate is Jewish and fudge is goyish.

    Granted, people are individuals -- and particularly post-Sept. 11, stereotyping seems gauche if not utterly narrow-minded -- but...

  • L.A. Jew

    November 15, 2001 | 7:00 pm

    "You're such an L.A. Jew," a Jewish friend in Chicago remarked recently in what turned out to be an unexpectedly expensive phone call. After all, her casual comment catapulted me straight to a comfy couch in a darkened Santa Monica shrink's office and cost me $100 bucks.

    It's not...

  • Rabbi-Bad Boy Complex

    October 4, 2001 | 8:00 pm

    Generally, when I think of rabbis, I think of wrinkled septuagenarians in majestic-looking robes.

    Sure, I've seen the Ben Stiller movie, "Leap of Faith," where the actor plays a hoops-shooting, hipper-than-thou New York City rabbi who raps his way through services. But to me, the...