Some women would argue that your expectations should go down the longer you are single. I say a deal breaker is a deal breaker, and the fact that you have turned 28
for several years in a row doesn't mean you should dismiss core things you want in a guy.
There are so many choices of singles events, but most of them don't seem to work for me: SpeedDating -- concept is interesting, but my age range and location
never seem to match my availability; outdoor sports -- not my thing, and it's not that I'm out of shape, I'm just a fair-skinned California girl who, in addition to not wanting to be burned to a crisp, has never shown much talent for volleyball or hiking; social dances -- I went to enough of those alone when I was in junior high. Enough said.
Dating is difficult enough without asking for a guarantee. Imagine my surprise when the last guy I went out with wanted just that.