A few weeks ago, I had just returned from a trip to New York to meet someone my rabbi tried to set me up with -- a member of his
former congregation there. On my first Friday night back in shul, I was confronted by close married friends of mine with the question.
A good friend of mine got married a couple of months ago to the wrong guy. The thing is, I think they're going to last a long time.
My friend, "Karen," is a top administrative officer for a government agency. She hired this lawyer, Joe, to do some outside legal work for the agency. He was living with someone at the time, and he wasn't her "type" anyway. No problem: no chemistry, no conflict.
Karen and Joe worked together peacefully for more than four years. They got to be good friends on strictly a professional level. All was fine.